serious questions for moms aout there....?

Question

hi, ladies. I'd like to ask if any of you feel the same way. me and husband have 4mths old baby. and for those who had baby natural way, we had bleeding, pain and pinching feeling down there for a while right? since I had a baby, I don't have any desire to have sex which make my husband grumpy. he's been patiently waiting for last 4mths but I don't feel like it. do you ever feel this way?? please serious reply!!

Answer 1

So, yeah I can definetly relate. I have a 12 month old and I had the same problem. I just did not have the zeal to have sex. For some reason i just didn't want to ever do it. I can truthfully so I am still like that to this day. I don't know what it is, but it doesn't feel th same either. We fight about it all the time. The only thing I can tell is try different things. Try to get some excitement in your relationship. Try doing different things in bed. That helped us a little. It makes my man less fussy.

Answer 2

I had my first two naturally, and my second two, twins, c-section. My husband acted like he was gonna die two weeks after any of our children were born. Honestly I think 4 months is a pretty good stretch of time. Being pregnant, and having a baby changes a lot of things about your body. Everything is different. They can change your tastes (I didn't like BBQ until I got pregnant with my second, now I love it.) they can change your hair (Mine's always been straight and after the twins it's curly.) so it's no wonder they can change the way sex feels, and your sexual appetite. Not to mention, you're tired, being a Mom is hard work. Seeing how it's been 4 months since you've had your baby, I would diffenately consider bringing this up with your doctor. I would suggest taking things slow. Work up to it. You can't be expected to jump in the sack and just go. (On the bright side, I know a couple that had a baby 8 months ago, and they haven't had sex since she wsa 3 months pregnant, she says it hurts too much.)

Answer 3

Actually, I wanted sex more after having a baby. We started again about 7 weeks after I gave birth. My problem is my husband doesn't want it as much as I do! I do know though that a lot of women feel the same way as you do. Maybe you should try having a romantic evening one night with candles and soft music to get you in the mood. Even with a baby, you can put the baby in his room and have some time alone when he is sleeping. Take it slow and easy and ask him to be gentle.

Answer 4

You are not alone. I read today that it might be very possible that your normal desire for sex won't be back for a year....although that isn't the norm. You should talk to your husband, and also your OBGYN about how you are feeling....and that means physically and mentally. I read also today that some of the reasons for not wanting to jump back in the sack right away is mental because you fear it will hurt, or that you'll tear, etc. Be patient. In my opinion, communication is your best bet here.....

Good luck!

My baby is almost 2 weeks!

Answer 5

I actually have the same feelings as you for about 9 mths, maybe it was the thought of getting preg. again, i don't know. Maybe you need to try to start fooling around every now and then. Lay on him while watching a movie, take a bath together while the baby is napping(or get a babysitter). you are going to have to put that spark back into the relationship. GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

I HAD MY BABY SEPTEMBER 19 2006....she is now 14 weeks old.I STILL have no desire to have sex.I cannot stand the thought of ANYTHHING going up there~!!! I thought I was different....good to know Im not the only one! I swear sometimes mine even still ''THROBS''!!

Answer 7

You are not alone. They say that a newborn baby is the best birth control!

Answer 8

Have a glass of wine and watch a sexy movie

If you are breastfeeding do it after she has gone to bed and it will not affect your milk for her next feed