would you stay?

Question

if you're husband or SO
did everything for you, everything you asked etc

was outgoing, loved/liked by everyone etc.

but he watched porn, chatted w/ other women,
opened up profiles on personal sites etc

and after giving him many chances to STOP these things, which
he knows bother you...

would you still stay with him????

Answer 1

I would not make such a big thing out of this because unless he meets up with these people in person its not really cheating on you, people look at porn everyday, it doesnt mean that hes uninterested in you or anything, however, he may be a addicted to online porn, this happens to aot of people, maybe letting him know that his actions kind of freaks you out will get him to stop, dont act like you're jealous, just tell him you think he might have a problem and if he denies it, tell him to prove it to you by not participating in that type of stuff. good luck

Answer 2

Was he doing when you met him? If he was then chill out you have options leave or pray for him to stop this habit. If he didn't remember this is a grown man and you are not his mother the more you say no for the he will do.This is not a good things but vows were for better or worst I guess your at that point of the marriage, but you are ready to bale out already. I wonder what type of habit you have and he wants you to stop. Oh I forgot women are always perfect yeah right!This is something he will have to change on his own. Does he want any help? Do you know what he is chatting with other women about and why don't he want to chat with you? I know how you feel but pray and ask the lord to give you wisdom on how to work out this situation. God give us hard things to deal with sometimes and see if we can be strong and help our brother or sister in christ. That's what he is not only your husband but your brother in christ when we see them in trouble do we just bale out are try to do everything in our possible will to help them. This is very hard to even say but the truth will make us free. God bless you and lead and guide you This can be an illness and a addition to a lot of men just like drugs etc

Answer 3

Ntifian dear friend. First of all you tell us that your husband does every thing for you. you say he his out going and loved and liked by others.
Well it seems to me like you have a good husband here one problem some thing is missing in your relationship.

Most men watch porn. Because he could be like millions of men and just likes sex. This is not a bad thing liking sex I mean, its just bad that for some rereason he is not truly satisfied by or with you his wife. Find out what he likes and try and do it for him.

His chatting with other women could because he wants the attention,why dont both of you agree to ban the use of the computer in the home for a few months. I could be wrong. but Has a man i think men start to stray when things are missing at home. Talk to him ask him what he wants try and both be open and very honest. I hope you can work things out im tied of people breaking up. Good luck dont forget talk. Be honset with each other and dont loose your self respect.

Answer 4

WoW!!!!! I know this must be really hard it is as thou he is cheating on you with out the physical contact.

Here is my respond ask yourself these question. How long have we been married?
Am I willing to through away my marriage for some boyish behavior?
Then ask yourself do you think he will take this behavior further to get in contact with these women? (If you answer yes to this I think you need to have a more in depth conversation with him)

Am I being totally direct a clear to him on my feelings of what he is doing?
Sometimes as women/men we think we are getting are point across so clearly and we have not even touched the surface.
Come out clear and tell him, I DO NOT LIKE_____: and fill in the blank.

The length of your marriage, and how long this has been going on, do you still love him/he you, and is this a problem that requires help/are you/he willing to go for it. The answer you get from these play a large role on whether you should stay/go.

Marriage is work just like anything else. Don't just give up(unless there is no love/responsibilities)!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

My advice would be to go to a sex therapist. Im not taking the pee here but there is a thing that you can be adicted to the net and cyber sex and things like that. Go to a sex therapist and talk. Dont throw away a relationship if everything else is good. It may be that you just need some help along those lines that they can give you. There may be a reason he does this that they can work out. Good luck in it.

Answer 6

No. How can you stay with someone that dreams of being with other women.This cant be real love. I lived with a guy for 3 years that done this same thing. I believe love is when a man only dreams of being with you and he dont have to watch silly porn to be with you. Believe you me there is someone out there for you but it aint porn watching chat room trash like that. You deserve better than that. God will get you through this. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 7

No anybody who is putting profiles on singles sites or sex sites is advertising, the fact that he knows it bothers you and he persists shows a lack of respect for you. I would leave before it gets worse.

Answer 8

My mother has put up with this behavior from my father for like 35 years, it will never stop, so if you don't want to be a part of it I would get out.

Answer 9

Nope! You can do what you want, but if it really bothers you, and he's not willing to stop it, what's the point? I personally would not put up with that kind of thing in my relationship!

Answer 10

Nope, he's a dope. By doing those things, he is belittling women by watching porn, and totally disrespecting you with that and the other stuff. Who cares what else he does, they don't make up for that crap.