Why doesn't my wife try to fix our marriage?

Question

She just plugs along hatefully existing in our home without even addressing the subject of our pathetic existence together.

Answer 1

She seems like she is going through an emotional break down. She might has fallen out of love with you. She may be giving you a cold shoulder. How long has it lasted? Try to communicate with her and let her know you still love or in love with her if you really do. You are the spiritual head of the house so you must talk to God to see how you can fix it. Won't you suggest going to church together. Pray for your wife she needs help and you to I pray you gey help remeber for better or worse

Answer 2

My situation is not THAT different but yes in the personal/emotional part. And no, they don't do that for being afraid you are going to leave them. It's pretty amazing the 2 did the same, because it was with the same kind of man, and were the same type of women. The best is to look forward and to the future. Plus even if they say or realize you were a good man. Would you date that kind of woman again?. Haven't you had (I'm telling that to myself too) your lesson of what happens with that kind of women?. Haven't you had enough?. What's the point what they see or think or want at this time?. Even if they come beging you, I think you will be better swimming in a pool with the sharks than next to that kind of person, they will eat your self-esteem alive, put you down, and once they drain all your energies, the energy of a man or person it's is self esteem basically, you can put a strong medieval-warrior on the ground by making him believe is worthles, it starts by little, little, little until he falls, and that's what verbal abuse is about, the victim can't go anywhere, it will get almost close as death or until wake ups and stand up by himself, a very hard thing to do.

Answer 3

In a marriage sometimes people forget to keep the spark on that they had when they first were married, it usually happens because of bills and other daily stresses in life, an important thing to do is keep doing things that you used to do while you were newly weds, show them you love them just cause, make them feel wanted, special, and appreciated. Do things around the house to really make the house feel more like a "home". Unfortunatly you could only try for so long, if she still doesn't respond to your attempts to make her happy that is when you need to leave and try and rebuild yourself with someone else, just because someone is down, doesnt mean they need to drag someone else into their slump, which is where you currently are, I do hope things progress, keep a bright outlook on this, and try until you know for sure you gave this marriage your all. Good luck again.

Answer 4

she is angry and hurt about something in the past she hasn't resolved, something done to her, real in your mind or not, in her reality it happened. takes two to fix something, so maybe if it means something to u, go to her ask her what happened to hurt her, tell her u want to bury the hatchet, but not in each other. ask forgiveness even if the injustice wasn't a really bad thing. she harbors resentment, and the only way your going to get your marriage back is to ask for forgiveness, forget your ego on this one, and forget that in your mind it will make u look weak, something happened to her, and she needs to forgive it, and u need to get forgiveness. whatever it is don't sweep it under the rug, and call it trivial or the process will stop and u will be back to square one. she has a problem, most likely with u, maybe it's something that u don't even recall, be more sensitive to whatever it is, cause divorce is difficult, and in the end there are no winners, just heartbroken people who never knew where they went wrong.

Answer 5

Takes 2 to fix things

Answer 6

This is a simple question and deserves an simple answer.
She should take a hammer and drive a nail thru your balls.... If you scream,
she leaves. If you smile, she stays because you are one hellave man. Problem solved.

Answer 7

It took two to break the marriage, it will take two tomend it...who are you to say she can fix it herself, I bet if we talked to her she would have a different story...better wake up and smell the coffee.....

Answer 8

It takes BOTH partners in the marriage to fix it...what are YOU doing to help?

Answer 9

Why don't you have a direct conversation with her? She is not the only one responsible for the relationship. It takes two to tango.

Answer 10

She did not get to that pathetic existence all by herself.