I am currently 18 years old, in art highschool of painting category, I never had a real girlfriend (like the one to feel that nothing can go wrong and to experience that kind of feeling when you would die for her) just stupid girlies that were either 2-3 years youger then me...anyways...When I was first a freshman in highschool I wasn't thinking too much like many young boys are...but then I was into the same classroom with an old friend of mine who opened my mind to many things but I think that I wasn't prepared for them yet...like studying people, how life works, stuff like this...I realised that life is bad...two years later I made a group of so called "friends" who I had nothing in common with them especially one who made me feel like crap most of the time when I made a mistake or something. I stayed with them cause I currently had no friends and wanted to belong...I was feeling kind of stupid...I began to ignore my drawing and painting and my studies...to be continued on details !
2006-12-23 10:12:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the continuing...and felt mizerable when seeing people who studied and I tought they were geeks for that and that made me feel so small, I'm lacking confidence with kind of everything...I've become from active lazy...Now I am in the las year of highschool. Suffered from depression, kind of almost cured it...Now I'm getting angry most of the time at myself for wasting my precious years of my life and not knowing what really mattered to me...I'm so ashamed of some stupid things I made...What I can't explain how did I become from something I hated to be, exactly that person ? Now I don't have friends except one who isn't really a friend, I'm feeling lonely most of the time, i'm feeling sorry for myself...
2006-12-23 10:19:16 · update #1
What you're feeling is normal.
You're in in your final year of high school and wondering about your future.
There's hope on the horizon as your life will dramatically change once you graduate high school and go onto college.
Hopefully, you will go onto college and the world will open up for you and you'll meet more interesting people who share in your interests, plus you'll have a wider access for choices in picking classes for things that you're curious about learning, etc.
The hard part for younger people to understand and accept is that things take time.
You're not going to make new friends at college overnight and you may change your major several times before finding what suits you.
But the wonderful thing is that you're young and you have time to explore your options.
Don't rush anything, but take your time and try to enjoy each and every new experience.
College is a lot more fun than high school, but it's also a lot harder as you're more independent, and treated as an adult.
Good luck to you!
Taking a few art classes in college is going to really open your eyes and you're going to meet some very interesting people!
Rest assured, though, that what you are going through now is normal.
We've all been there and done that!
2006-12-23 10:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by ghostwriter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 18 years is a typical age to feel this way. YOu kind of grow up and see what's going on around you and question the decisions you have made.
You're growing up. You just happen to be more mature than other kids your age. Just keep realizing that the feelings and realizations you have are good, because they are keeping you from making the same mistakes.
Find a new group of friends and continue to do what makes you happy (art). It seems you would make a very good mentor for high school students who suffer with peer pressure and low self esteem.
Life isn't all bad.
Good luck to you my friend!!! Happy Holidays!
2006-12-23 18:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of in the same boat as you. Have comfort in knowing your not alone. And one or two Friends are all you really need. Work on developing a better relationship with the one you have or start doing things that will enable you to meet like minded individuals such a s yourself. And I'm 19 and have not been in love yet, from what I've seen from other people it looks pretty overwhelming. But your young yet it will definitely come. It comes for all of us.
2006-12-23 18:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels the need to belong, so don't feel stupid just because you were trying to fit in with people that you didn't have much in common with.
I think the question you need to ask yourself isn't "what happened", but "what DIDN'T happen". It sounds like you stayed neutral for a few years, just waiting for your life to start.
The truth is you need to TAKE ACTION and stop feeling sorry for yourself. I just went through the same thing.(Except i'm a Freshman not a Senior)But once i stepped out of my comfort zone and started to expierience life again, I found out it wasn't everyone else who had with me, but I had a problem with everyone else. I also studied people and pretty much classified them before I knew them. Then I realized I'm not perfect and nothing can ever be perfect or how I would like it to be. I just needed to make the best of what is real.
2006-12-23 18:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by I need your help to help myself. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you remind me of myself. i've got a group of friends who basically make me feel like dirt. i would just go find others except i have one really really great friend who stays with them. she's kept me from killing myself a couple of times. i know that when i'm feeling bad or i just need to talk i can go to her and she's always there for me. and when she's sad, i can help her too, which makes me feel better about myself. yah, i suffer from mild depression, and it sucks. all you need to do is go find some really good friends. screw the fact that they might not be popular. screw modern trends. all you've gotta find is a great pal that you can spend time with and be happy with. i dont have a girlfriend, but i dont need one. down bow down to peer pressure. be who you are and find someone that's like you. ditch these friends and find some friends that like the same kinda stuff that you do.
2006-12-23 18:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing has happened!
At this age such feelings do come and go away. Have a good friend and remember the best friends are your mom and dad.
2006-12-23 18:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by SKA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like what has happened is you turned into a whinny little *****. just try not to let your skirt get in your way so much and you will be fine.
2006-12-23 18:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by shithe_ad 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋