2006-12-23 09:55:16 · 22 answers · asked by aedge09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The ultimate decision is yours, but most parents are looking out for their child's best interests, so their opinion should be considered. Remember, they say love is blind, so your parents may be seeing something you cannot see. Listen to what they say and then ask a close, trusted friend (better yet, several friends) if they see the same things your parents are seeing. Marriage should never be entered into lightly and you want to make sure you truly know the person you are marrying. if you are absolutely positive they are THE one, explain to your parents that you appreciate their advice and have considered what they are saying, but that you are still marrying this person.
2006-12-23 10:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by ldsmom2201 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they are that worried about what their parents think, then their parents will continue to control the relationship long after the couple is married. It is called having the inability to have a mind of their own. If you are this person then seek help immediately, if you are on the receiving end, run like hell!
2006-12-23 19:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that parents sometimes have an insight, but I wouldn't marry someone based solely on what my parents would or would not think. It does help to have the blessings of parents, it tends to make the ride a lot smoother.
2006-12-23 17:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, the couple are the people in the marriage. They have to wake up each day with each other, not the parents. So they should be happy together regardless of what parents think - either way. If the parents really love the kids they would only want to see them happy anyway.
2006-12-23 17:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have saw alot of people go ahead and get married against their parents wishes and it has been a nightmare! Sometimes parents can see that someone is not right for you even though you cant because you are blinded by love or lust!! I would take careful consideration before going against parents because sometimes it gets uglY!
2006-12-23 19:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure this is the person you want to marry, and this person makes you happy, nothing your parents can say will prevent that. But, having said that, you need to make sure this person will make you happy 10, 20,30 years down the road. I know there's no crystal ball to tell that, but by taking time before taking the marriage plunge to really get to know this person, will show you that.
2006-12-23 17:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't, but my parents were bigoted, narrow minded, and would have preferred that I dated guys of their choice who had NO character or redeeming qualities. I chose a good, intelligent and faithful man, and they hated him just because he was a Jew. He and I were together and monogamous for 34 years before he was killed in a car crash this last fall, and loved each other dearly.
My father had died, my mother married his best friend who is an idiot, and I moved OUT, quickly. They were insulting to my Husband and we were never invited to certain family functions. The family finally disowned me when I became seriously ill, and I never bothered to tell her that I was moving cross country, or that my Husband died. I should have told them all to stuff it years ago!
I'd trust my heart.
I did it, and it's obvious that I made the right choice. You may have to give up seeing your family. Please consider what I said, and ask yourself if it's really true love, and who and what's more important to you.
2006-12-23 18:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. I would always listen to the advice of my parents and then use it to make my own decision. However, you have to take many different factors into consideration. For example, my darling mother loves to give marital advice. She is on her 4th marriage and everyone of the divorces is someone else's fault. So, I listen to her advice and usually don't follow it. My father will also give me marital advice when I ask for it. He is on his 3rd marriage and is quite open about the mistakes he made that contributed to each divorce. So, I listen to him in spite of the fact he has had 2 divorces.
2006-12-23 17:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my mil had her way my husband would never marry or have kids. I wouldn't listen to them.after my hubby and I got married, we had another 2nd wedding, it was public.I guess my mil didn't know were already married. The whole time she was trying to talk him out of it
2006-12-23 18:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with your gut instinct and not worry about your parents. You can only go so far with pleasing your parents but if you're in love you should go for it. If your parents can't accept you being happy then that's them but they shouldn't take it out on you......
2006-12-23 17:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋