Im afraid of my life what do i do?

Question

I dont know if you find this strange or not, but every time I wake up in the morning I wonder what my life is going to be like, how i'll do in my degree course, where I'll be living, what sort of woman i marry or if I ever do, whether I'll be succesful financially or struggling, if I'll have a good job or be just a loser with nothing or will i live a peaceful life or will people just cause trouble for me etc

sometimes i just feel angry and sad at times, you know like sometimes I try hard to achieve things but do not succeed, ie exams, assignments and when concentrating in lectures, the lecturer says Im not and i feel that most people just hate me.

Answer 1

I recognize those feelings, it's an early morning thing. Your brain is going into overdrive immediately you wake up and you're thinking too deep. Immediately you wake up, get up and go and turn on your radio, tv or computer and have a hot drink. Within a couple of minutes you'll stop brooding and your worries will recede.

Then try to do some work on your assignment early in the morning when your brain is fresh, you'll be amazed what you can achieve compared with work left until the evening. You could redirect all the brainpower wasted on worrying into your work.

You sound like a hard worker and it will eventually pay off. Your lecturers are only trying to encourage you as they realise you're capable of better results. They don't want you to rest on your laurels. It's easy to feel paranoid when the pressure is on.

Answer 2

You're certainly not in the present. The fact that you worry about all these things mean that you cannot concentrate properly on what's happening in the moment which might explain your lack of success and concentration. Make a plan of what you want to achieve in life, retrace backwards to find out the steps you need to take to achieve your goals. Work through them but be willing to adapt and change with the times. Enjoy the moment!

Answer 3

Worrying is natural to most people but worrying to excess then becomes a problem. By doing this you are misusing the imagination. You may be suffering from some type of anxiety. You could make a start by thinking positive thoughts and imagining where you would like to be in life. This sets up the brain to work towards the positive goals you give it.

Answer 4

The first thing to do in my view and this is my opinion, you can take it or leave whatever you wish. You should start to believe in yourself and your abilities. I was once in your position but there are differences.
I left school with a reading age of a ten year old but I overcome my dificulties through a lot of hard work. As far as exams go, I would recommend that you visit you local Org at the Church of Scientology and ask about the basic study manual course because it was this training that helped me overcome all of my learning difficulties. As far as your life goes try to see the beauty of your surroundings when you go outside.
You create your life take a positive step and focus on one thing at a time.
All the best.

Answer 5

I'm Jewish, but I'll answer anyway. I'm 71, so I'm probably a lot closer to death than you are. But it doesn't bother me. Non-existence is not painful, nor do you miss anything. Yes, it would be nice in a way to be able to live forever, but I wonder if that could end up boring after enough eons. Our own consciousness is important to us, but the cosmos (or, if you will, G-d) will last even when we are gone. And who can say for sure what part of our consciousness might persist in that cosmic mind. We have a biological tendency to fear death (so that we'll survive to reproduce), but that's all fear of death is - a chemical and neurological tendency. It's the great equalizer in that everyone undergoes the process. You have a lot to live for. I hope you can enjoy it.

Answer 6

Maybe you have depression. Read up on depression and see if you have any symptoms. Try to take a break once in a while and do something to relax and get your mind off of whatevers stressing you out. Talk to somebody, like a friend. I assure you that most people don't hate you. Somebody really cares for you, maybe you just don't know it. And if they don't know, they will later. Try to make the best of your days, do what you like to do yet know that you have a responsibility of having a career, so try to work on that. If you feel its serious, you should see a psychologist or counselor.

Answer 7

You should not take responsibility of everything that happens to you on your shoulders. Life is strange! Many things happen on which you do not have control but they will happen anyways.

The best strategy is therefore to do your honest best and leave it at that. Have a positive attitude always!!!

Despite all above, things will go wrong sometimes and when something goes wrong do not feel bad because it is not you who is responsible.

Remember the famous "Geeta" teaching & its philosophy....." Do thy duty, rewawrd is not thy concern"

Answer 8

It does sound like a lot of confused thoughts. I think there is a saying that neurosis is the inability to accept ambiguity. When you do not know the answer to what the future will hold, you can focus purely on what you can do.

What is outside of your control is fate, what is inside of your control is destiny. Channel your destiny, and accept fate as inevitable.

Answer 9

YOU'RE JUST A NORMAL HUMAN. EVERYONE HAS THESE THOUGHTS. i have them too, and i worry about stuff all the time. being sad or angry is part of being a human. failure is a part of this too. feeling that people hate you isnt uncommon, you just need to realize that they can hate you all they want and they can go shove their heads in a toilet. go talk with a really good friend when you're mad or sad, and just remember that those jackasses can hate you all they want, you've got good friends and that's all you need.
everyone deals with uncertanty. it's a part of life. you've just got to cope with it. and you can do it. I'M ROOTING FOR YOU!!! good luck, mate.

Answer 10

Dont worry about that stuff. If you spend everday worrying life will pass you by. Just enjoy yourself. Do what your most passionate about. Spend time with the people you care the most about. Think about what YOU really like to do and do it.