She accused me of losing myself, saying that I've become a character of the book I'm writing. Because of some expierences in my past (and she knows it) denying me of who I am, has been one of the worst things people can do to me. It completely tears me apart. Then she started telling me that I'm crazy and all that bullcrap. We've made our mends, and stuff, but it is still hurting me. I am finding myself unable to forgive her because she hurt me so much. How can I forgive her? (Yes I want to still be friends with her.)
2006-12-23 09:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by who_is_audrey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I thought we made our mends, but when I recently talked to her, she blew up in my face. She started screaming at me, and accusing me of keeping secrets, it was all a misunderstanding in the first place, but somehow it's become more than that. It also got even more comlicated. When she got upset at me, her friend got upset, made me upset, which upset another one of my friends, and he got mad at my best friends friend....and now we're all split. I'm going to talk to my friend tonight, but I'm afraid of what will happen. I've ruined his friendship between us all. I don't know what to do, we've been through so much. I don't want to lose this friendship, but I don't want to chase her. I don't know what happened, but I don't know what to do. I'm just so frustrated...what do you think, and what would you do?
2006-12-24 09:50:05 · update #1
I would just go on and talk to her ever now and then. She is going to keep doing it. You will be the one to get hurt everytime.
2006-12-23 09:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other answers are good but maybe its a case of jealousy. Maybe she lost it because you were doing something with yourself and she tried to bruise your self esteem. I had a friend to lie on me to my boyfriend, since I knew it was a lie and I talked to him and showed him it was a lie I just continued to talk to her and never told her he told me. She doesn't even know I know. I deal treat her out of a long handled spoon and anything I think she can't accept such as my happiness these days, I keep that topic off the menu. You say that you want to be friends, it's possible to do that but forgiving will take time. I am not an every day church going person but I do believe that we have to forgive peopleif we want to be forgiven. If you continue to carry this with you then you are allowing her to hinder you. Don't, if there is something you need to say to her to get it off of your chest, then talk about it so that you can express what you need to express the same way she did. Writing a book is HUGE, I wish you so much luck in that, don't let anyone steal your thunder.
2006-12-23 18:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really something you have to work on. It may help to be honest with her and let her know how you're struggling and how you want to work on your friendship. Maybe she can help in some way.
It will take time and tell her it will take time for you to come completely around, but you're willing to work at it. Everyone says things that later they wish they hadn't.
2006-12-23 17:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by ??? LadyBoyd ??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend could be actually sorry for what she did, but it sounds like she's fake. she could be for real, but maybe you need to find some other friends and be careful about what you trust her with and be more cautious about how much of your heart you give her. the more you put into your friendship, the more it will break your heart if she hurts you again.
2006-12-23 17:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, lifes too short to hold grudges. Basically acknowledge that she has the right to her opinion, and you respect that she is looking out for your best interests. Sometimes though in life adults have to agree to disagree. Strange but true.
2006-12-23 17:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey my friend has been hurting me physically and I have bruses and scars from her. I have tried to ignor her throughout the day but it doesn't work, and she is really annoying and abnoxious so I kinda have the same problem u have GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-23 18:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP and continue to do what you like to do. She can accept it or not---no big deal. You too need to accept the way she thinks----you dont need to agree with it--just accept it-A big part of growing up and maturing.
2006-12-23 18:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's best that you guys spend a little time apart. in time, i'm sure you'll be able to foregive her. but sometimes people just grow apart. hope you figure it out.
happy holidays
2006-12-23 17:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..!no problem..as u still wish a friendship with her..[means..still..some good in her..!]so..just.. remember it..,when u become upset..& time will be best solution..forgeving..is best,when it is to ..our own..!![yaa..,u pls make a lession,out of this..!]
have a nice time..best of all..!!
2006-12-23 17:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving comes with time... only that can help
also see hwo she behives
2006-12-23 17:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋