I am a drug user and an alcohalic. I need an abortion but it is too late. I have no money and no support. I am 22 years old. And going to kill myself.
2006-12-23 09:20:59 · 28 answers · asked by jacqueline_5821 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
...need an abortion
2006-12-23 09:44:37 · update #1
you have passed the 3 month mark. go see the doctor immediately get tested. stop doing drugs, drinking alcohol for the next 6 months. you can do it. for the baby. ah make sure you tell the father of your child so he can help you with child support.
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2006-12-23 09:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don' kill yourself. Do whatever it takes to quit your addictions since you cannot have an abortion now. At least give your baby a chance at life. A life that the baby did not ask for but you are responsible for. If you quit your addictions imagine how much money you will have to contribute to your new baby. There may be a reason that God didn't let you find out about your pregnancy until it was too late for abortion. Maybe this child was meant to save your life from your addictions. Think of how good of a mother you could be. If it is too overwhelming to do this then quit your drugs and alcohol, have a healthy remaining pregnancy, and give the baby up for adoption with a chance at life.
2006-12-23 17:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by micg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try and be calm. It sounds as if you know you have many problems, and just being aware is the first step. You NEED to go to Planned Parenthood. There should be one in your area. E-mail me, if you'd like, and I'd be happy to help you find it. They will help you.
It is far too late for an abortion. DO NOT GO for a back-alley one. It'll probably kill you. You need to get some help, and going to P.P. can be your first step in regard to finding even more help. I know some people may say horrible things to you, Jacqueline (that's my favorite name), but ignore them, they aren't worth your time.
I think P.P. would try and get you into rehab ASAP. Please don't kill yourself and your baby by continuing with your current habits. Realize that you are young, that you have so much time to better your life. There is a very good chance you could receive room & board at a place for pregnant mothers, food, clothing, and emotional and medical help throughout and after the pregnancy. Don't deny yourself! If you do not want to keep the baby, give him/her up for adoption. I would hope you'd feel proud that you wiil be giving your baby a second chance.
Don't hurt yourself, not when there is so much help to be had out there. I would be pleased to aid you in finding the help you need. Please call these numbers, as I believe they may help you a great deal in the present moment:
Unplanned Preganancy/Adoption hotline: 866-942-3678
U.S. Suicide Hotlines: 1-800-784-2433 & 1-800-273-8255
America's Pregnancy Hotline: 1-800-672-2296
Please know that people care about you, whether you believe so or not. I think you are amazing for admitting to your problems. Try to call, go immediately so that things don't worsen tonight. Even the local ER is a good start. Don't be alone tonight, and don't be with friends who use. If there is noone else you know of, make a call or go straight to the hospital, call 911. You and your baby deserve far better than what you think.
2006-12-23 17:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry because you may still have time too take your prenantal pills and folic acid. What you need to do is see a doctor asap and tell him/her what you just told us and maybe there could find a solution for you.
Killing yourself is not the answer... Everybody makes mistakes and the baby might still be healthy.
This happened to me with my 3rd pregnancy, I went out too a club and I had alot too drink but I did not know that I was pregnant. A week later I found out that I was pregnant and I was worried the difference between you and me is I only did one time. Once I found out that I was pregnant I automatically changed my ways and did the right thing. I had a beautiful baby girl who weighed 6 pounds 11 ounces... So please do not give up and everything will be alright.. Good Luck to you!!!!
2006-12-23 17:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not going to kill yourself or the baby. You are ONLY 22 and you have a whole life ahead of you. Whatever your past is, whatever you did or did not do, it does not matter now. What matter is that you get help, that you accept that you need change in your life and if you don't want to keep the baby when he/she is born, give it up for adoption at a local fire station.
If you kill yourself and/or the baby what do you accomplish with that? Does that solve anything? What are you going to tell God when you see him? What excuse are you going to give him? God loves you and wants you to turn your life around. You have a CHOICE, make the correct one and save yourself and this baby.
You need to go help ASAP at a shelter. What City are you in? Got to local churches, shelters and so on. Find treatment, accept it and stick to it. Do not ever give up!
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2006-12-23 17:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all get off the drugs and alchol. and start thinking about the child you are carrying, and you can always give it up for adoption. but. you have to stop the drugs and that. and if you had money for drugs and that. just use that money for supporting your self in a good way. and if you kill yourself your killing an Innocent baby who didn't ask to be born and lets just say you did. but you made it. and the baby didn't you can get charged for murder is that what you really want. sorry to say you made your bed now you have to live in it. and no one can help you unless you really want to be help. get your life back in order and start respecting your self and care for yourself and do it quick because you have a innocent human being coming in this world that's going to need all your attention and love. sorry if it sounds mean but its the truth.
2006-12-23 17:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the end of the world! There are lots of resources to help you. If you are unsure of where to look, go to your local phone book and look under adoption, some agencies will give you room and board and pay for your medical needs until the birth and then help you get on your feet afterwards. All you have to do is ask for help. I myself am not verry religous but you could also go to your local church, they are always willing to help someone in need.
P.S.
I was in the same boat 7 years ago, and I have to tell you that my daughter saved my life! Sometimes you don't understand why this is happening to you or why it seems to be THE WORST timing in the world for this to happen but believe me, it was ment to happen and maybe it's someones way of telling you to fix your life.
2006-12-23 17:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Hospital - tell them you are pregnant and suicidal - they will admit you - then when you are sober enough to decide choose - ADOPTION OR MOTHERHOOD - those are your choices now. If once you are sober you think you can stay that way and raise this child do it if you can't give the child an opportunity at a better life. Good Luck!
2006-12-23 17:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion you should go to a clinic and tell them you are addicted to drugs and alcoholand that your pregnant. they can help you out with some programs they can also help you with your baby. Also go and get welfare .Always think of a person who can give you support . you might think you don't have one but you do also trust on God and you will be fine . Now try to stay away from drugs and alcohol they are not your friends trust me ,.
2006-12-23 17:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please control yourself you can get help. There are clinics for you. YOu are going to kill yourself is not the answer. Clean yourself up and seek help. You are a young person that you are able to work. Take a breath and take one step at a time. Stop abusing drugs, Calm down, Seek help, and pray you will find answers. Good Luck.. I will pray foryou
2006-12-26 15:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Teresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋