I have realised that I am harbouring a lot of resentment and I would really like to move on but I don't know how. I have a memory like an elephant and remember every wrong doing that everyone has ever done. It is driving me crazy now. How do I just get over it?
2006-12-23 08:55:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
remembering what people do, how they behave and what they say is sane and sensible.... we all do it.. it is wise to learn from past mistakes..
having said that let me also say that if your energies are focussed on resenting these people then you are robbing yourself of good times, good thoughts, and good experiences.
The way to move away from resentment towards simply remembering and learning from the past is to say to yourself. I have learned from that experience and know not to trust that person again, however I do know there are others I can trust. Focus your attention on positive people, people who are caring and friendly, people who are genuine.
Do remember that no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes the best course of action is to forgive someone their errors and accept that we all make some mistakes.
2006-12-23 09:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the Book the Journey by Brandon Bays. Also Bhagavad Gita As it Is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. We basically have to understand our position as spirit souls and how we are all fallen in this material world. We have to come from a place of compassion to all living beings to actually let go of all resentment. It is not easy but it is. When we do let go we feel so free. The biggest resentment people harbor (generally unknowingly is to God) also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. This is the most important one then we can gradually let go of the rest. I did the process of the Journey and it has freed me from my past resentments. Also the process of Bhakti (devotional service to God is the most freeing on all levels) I hope this helps.
2006-12-23 09:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. People that hurt you, or break your trust??? Be done with them!! Get them out of your life!! Resentment comes from forgiving the unforgivable, and giving them the chance to do it to you again. I'm not saying don't forgive, but forgive and move on. One never forgets. Live and learn. Choose your friends carefully.
2006-12-23 09:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes some heavy work, but move on,,,turn the page,,,get a new room...either confront the resentments, or let them go.
2006-12-23 09:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋