hey! ok so i am in 7th grade now and i go to a diff. school then last year (junior high) well last year, my good friend and i were really close but now we go to differnet schools and we only chat over email. whenever she emails me she asks me "what's new?" and i tell her... well last week i told her that i have a new boyfriend. she replied by saying... "hey. so a boyfriend? hm thats great................" like she didn't care and now whenever she talks about him she refers to him as "boyfriend" like i he's not real or something.. it really hurts my feelings cause you would think that a friend would be happy for you but she seems to be jealous or annoyed... i've told her that she doesn't need to call him "boyfriend" and that she could be nicer about it but it hasn't seemed to help... any advice? thanks, and happy holidays!
2006-12-23 08:39:10 · 10 answers · asked by *JJtrue♥* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, distance can strain a friendship. And I'm a year older than you, I'm in 8th grade, but I know what you're going through. Maybe she's still distraught about you going to another school? Or perhaps you two have just grown apart. You can find tons of new friends in your new school. And guess what, you also have your boyfriend for comfort. Anyway, just remember to not analyze too much into things. And if she can't be happy for you, then that's too bad for her, she's just lost a friend.
I hope this helps you out and enjoy your new school!
2006-12-23 08:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fact that you don't go to the same school anymore, has definitely put a wedge between the two of you. She doesn't see you everyday, like she used to, so naturally, she's not going to be that interested, in what you have to say. I don't think she's jealous of you having a boyfriend, she just doesn't care, enough to care, rather you do, or not and so she comes off as being bored with your conversations. She's being sarcastic, because she doesn't have to see you everyday, if she saw you everyday, her attitude, would be totally different. The wedge between you too, will only get bigger with time and eventually, your friendship, will cease to exist, so you need to prepare yourself, for the worst. I'm only being honest with you. Happy Holidays and try not to let this get you down, you're stronger than you think.
2006-12-23 08:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was that age that a lot of people in my class, they all had one certain special friend that you would never see them apart. This was in 6th grade. By the end of the year they hardly spoke to each other and began getting into their own group of friends. And most of them stayed that way throughout High School. The 2 friends may have talked but they had their own groups now.
Point is, I believe that around that age that you are in that you all are changing and experiencing things differently and start trying to figure out who you are and where your life is going AND the type of people you fit in with best.
Your friend might be going through this.
I'm not saying she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but that she may have found her "group" and it's probably much different then yours.
About the boyfriend thing, maybe she is jealous. Or maybe she liked a certain boy who did not like her in return and so when you talk about yours she is hurt inside and doesn't really want to talk about it.
Maybe just keep your boyfriend to yourself and the friends who are happy for her and talk to her about her. And maybe she just needs someone to listen to her.
I don't really know but thats my thought on it all.
2006-12-23 08:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Some Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is honoring the relationship, not offering contempt. The biggest problem with ascii is there is no prosody, and no body language. So thats two problems. You cant hear how the words are said to give you cues to which meanings they have, and you cant see the body language that also gives cues.
Is there any chance that your girlfriend is jealous, and doesnt want to lose more of your friendship?
2006-12-23 08:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a mix of jealousy and that in a way you're moving on without her. She's still yyour friend, just try and make an effort to spend time with her, maybe invite her to the movies or something.
2006-12-23 08:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by getshorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your friend. but if she doesnt believe you its her problem not yours. i had a frien hoo did the same thing and i just let believe what she wanted because i didnt want ot start drama. just tell her that she can belive whatever she wants. just YOU keep knoing the truth is good enough. if you make a big deal, you might ruin a great friendship. dont let something that smal ruin something so great
2006-12-23 08:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by kailynn marie ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, maybe she is like that cuz she is jealous of u that u have a boyfriend that is all i am guessing good luck
2006-12-23 08:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by sassy suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop e-mailing her for 2weeks whatever you do do not e-mail this girl than after 2weeks she will be happy to talk via/e-mail.It works every time.
2006-12-23 08:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but she's probably just jealous. i'd look past it or tell her that you broke up with him so it's not a topic anymore.
2006-12-23 08:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by m&m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what she thinks.
2006-12-23 08:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋