There is this one boy i like and we have already done some stuff together behind my parents back, but he ask me to come to parties and hang out and stuff like that but i am tired of lying to my parents. I am 14 and nearly every girl my age can hang out with guys but me, and my mom considers this age too young to be going places with guys. And i am not to sure what my dad thinks. But i am afraid that if i don't do stuff with this guy then he won't want to be with me. What do you think i should do?
2006-12-23 08:31:43 · 10 answers · asked by Littlehime 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Talk to your parents.. be open and honest. Ask them why they feel you are to young so you can understand why they feel this way. And then pleed your case. If you have been responsible in the past be sure and remind them. Also Don't go behind there backs you will get caught ( my kids always do) and then you won't beable to date until you are 30 LOL. Good luck.
2006-12-23 08:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by GI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys will come and go, but you can never replace your parents. They are just looking out for you because they love you. As hard as it is to hear, they know what is best for you. They were your age once and they know how 14 year old boys think and they know what goes on at parties. They just don't want you to get hurt or end up in a situation that you can't handle, like getting pregnant, getting raped at a party, or something like that. I would listen to your parents and just follow their rules. Your life will be alot worse if you make it to where your parents can't trust you. You'll wish you never went behind their backs. Just wait a few years to experience all that stuff with boys. There's no rush, and you won't regret it.
2006-12-23 16:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by chickmomma5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can slightly relate because I am a 13 year old girl and my parents have a strict "no-dating" policy. And that includes messing around. But you know what? I'm cool with it. My parents went through these things when they were younger so they know what's best for me. And it also makes it a LOT easier for me to get great grades, like seriously, my report card is pretty good.
I have a lot of friends my age who have made out with many different guys and ended their relationship in a snap and in class, most of the things they talk about are: HOT GUYS or MAKEUP. I tell them to stop because they take things a little serious and when they "break" their relationship, their self esteem lowers drastically and they're in this slump.
My point is: You've got a lifetime to be with boys. And this boy should respect yours and your parents decision. If he doesn't, then he's one of those typical shallow boys who just want to bang you. However, if you do feel that your parents are a little too unfair, talk to them but don't yell or anything. Try to be as calm as you can in the process.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 20:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by miss_shirinie526 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your parents are telling you this for a reason. I was once your age, and I didn't listen to my mom when she told me I was to young to go out with a guy. But think of it like this, if the guys cares about you enough, your worth waiting for. Your 14, and young. You have a lot of life left to live.
2006-12-23 17:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jillian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just open up to your parents tell them how you feel CALMLY don't get mad and argue sit down and show some maturity they will think of you more as an adult if you show them reason to. this isn't a sure fire one time deal that gonna fix everything but it may be a step in the right direction. as for the whole guy thing take it from a guy that has seen way to many friends take advantage of girls in that exact same way, if he is pressuring you into doing "things" then you don't need him he will use you and then kick you to the curb, you seem like a very nice girl and you will have lots of oppertunities with guys but you don't need one thats gonna do you bad. i hope that everything works out for you. i wish you the best.
2006-12-23 23:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok one thing is
this boy should like u for who u are and not wat u can do with him ... if he reallllllllllly likes u he would help u study and not force u on stuff u cant do ... tell ur mom ur getting a friend home for some study this way he gets to meet ur family at least at ur mum see his helping and not harming ... parties are a bit too early for u and wil make u lack behind .... be careful okay ... parents just do that cuz they simply care and fear for u ... wat if u do something REALLY wrong and get preg then wat u wil say i wish i heard my parents advice better act smart before u act dum .
good luck thing twice ... the line of lies is realllllllllly short ... its easily found .
2006-12-23 16:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Zeina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the way my mom is to just i didnt tell ehr eather i was afraid of what shed say but remember parents are here to help and if any thing gets out of hand trust her and shell trust you
2006-12-23 17:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by feelings_mutual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents unless you want to be a teen mom.
2006-12-24 17:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 is the age limit for hispanics/ whites at 16. there is no rush, let time take it's coarse
2006-12-23 16:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worrie you have a life time to do things with guys. just have fun while your a kid.
2006-12-23 16:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋