I have seen people get married, then Divorsed. Married, and Devorced. some stay together 10 years, some 2. Others 43 years, and some for only monthes. were we, as humans, made to be together........ for ever?
2006-12-23 08:30:18 · 5 answers · asked by coreyaweber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After certain period (duration depends on individuals) it becomes terribly irritating and painful to maintain cordial relationship in a marriage. Some cheat , some stray. One requires to have tremendous self control and make painful compromises to remain married after the cracks appear in the relation. Still some are able to live together until death parts them. I really salute them. Bigamy and cheating have never been uneventful even in ancient times. In spite of knowing all this we despise when husband/wife cheates us and want to part. Yes, marriage is supposed to be together for ever but we cant keep it.
2006-12-23 08:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Realistically, I don't think people should have the expectation that ONE wonderful person is going to fulfill all of their relationship expectations and needs for the rest of their lives. I used to be idealistic, but watching relationships crumble all over the place, it's obvious that there is something very, very wrong. I believe now, that most people stay married for other reasons than love ($$, a place to live, lazy and just don't have the "means" to set the ball in motion".
Women are more independent than ever now, and don't have to stay in a relationship they don't want, simply to be "taken care of" by a man.
I think what people want most to have a trusted friend, and someone that makes them feel safe, secure & respected. Once you stop feeling safe with your partner, it's kind of hard to go on with them. Everybody changes, which is normal. Some change in such an extreme way, that we never would have been attracted to them in the first place... it's not "what we bargained for". Spouses need return & exchange policies.. haha
If a "partner" is no longer a partner, then it's normal to want to find someone that has more common interests and goals. I don't think that means we are "players".
2006-12-23 23:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God created someone for everyone and maybe those people havent found there match yet my grandparents have been togather for 60 plus years they were meant to be togather when my grandmother died 2 months later my grandfather died they were so much like each other it was funny at times she could finish his statements and would know what he was thinking before he even open his mouth and that is the way me and my husband are now i've been divorced 3 times and now i finally found my match and we have been togather for 12 years now and still counting sometimes you have to go throw a lot of bad apples to find a good one
2006-12-23 17:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a lifelong partner is realistic. Some things may be happening on the side but you always go back to the one you love.
2006-12-23 17:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we were never meant to be constantly together, humans are animals and driver by animal urges to procreate with as many as possible to perpetuate the species
2006-12-23 17:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋