should you just start yeling at someone when you are really mad? When they did something wrong? Or both?
2006-12-23 08:00:23 · 26 answers · asked by spartamonkey14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
life is too short to be angry.
even if you are mad don't yell at people just for being in your way.
try to resolve it
2006-12-23 08:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Angry Little Fairy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello spartamonkey14,
Yelling is actually not a good choice in either situation. When someone is yelling, their loudness and their actions are a distraction from the message they are trying to convey. Yelling is also more likely to illicit a defensive response than using a clam, controlled voice. Yelling can lead to escalation of problems and rarely solves anything.
Instead of yelling when you are really mad, it is important to use good communication. Be direct and open, and to the point when you want to discuss why you are angry with someone. Don't distract your listener by the drama of yelling. Be careful to stick to your point if the person is willing to discuss the issue with you.
Calm reasoning is usually the best way to go.
Good luck
S
2006-12-23 08:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sharlene R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yelling is pretty much a way that you will warn your kids or friends what you have or have not done, and how they can learn from that. another way was when peopel just are in a REALLY bad mood and they just had a hard day, and they just yell constantly at people for no reason at all, or even blame your friends for what has happned/ I personally don't like yelling because that brings down people. some people I know yells, and she just has a really bad life with her parents, and and some of the time, it is ok, but sometimes she should be toning the notch down .
2006-12-23 08:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by sally b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say neither. yelling is never the answer. when two people are upset and angry, you say things that you don't really mean, and sometimes they are words you can't take back and can haunt you for life. i say, wait until the steam is out of you, stay away from the person that made you angry. once you calm down, you can handle the problem. rather than yelling, i'd tell the person - you made me feel hurt and angry at the same time - and it's something you want to talk about it. tell them what they did to make you angry and you don't like that feeling - and you want to know why we have to hurt each other. listen to what they say, without being judgmental. after all, you are asking them why they were like this with you - but, if they start yelling, stop them, and say - i waited to talk to you until i calmed down - i just want to talk about it - and if you have to scream and not be able to just talk - then we have nothing to say. come back when you are rational. if they have feelings for you, they will come back and talk - and you never had to yell - good luck.
2006-12-23 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never okay. You should not yell at anyone, ever. Use self-control and talk about what is bothering you in an adult manner. If you have the urge to yell, walk away. Calm down, and come back to talk about it at a later time. Yelling can do more harm than good. You'll say things that you don't mean, and you can never take the words back. People don't forget what you say to them, and how you say it.
2006-12-23 08:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Author Al 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yelling is ok when you need to get that persons attention for safety reasons. Yelling when in an emotional conversation is unnecessary...yet people still do so. When a person yells while in an anger state it generally means that that person needs to be validated in some way. Their insecure, frustrated etc. Recognize that, make the statement of "I'll listen to you, but no need to yell". If they continue to yell, state "I'll not be yelled at, I talk to you later when you can express to me without yelling". Choose your own words, but you get the point. Yelling at someone out of anger etc, is generally for the purpose of being condescending, bullying...I won't allow that in my 'space' and state such.
2006-12-23 08:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling will help vent some anger if they have done something to upset you, just make sure you've got your facts right first, dont want to feel like a fool if you find out you're wrong!! If you are just mad about something, make sure you dont take it out on the wrong person.
2006-12-23 08:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by seg1802 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they are hard of hearing???
No need to yell, ever. That just shows ignorance.
If you really feel the need to yell due to anger....grab a pillow and scream into it. The release really does do you good. And, MORE IMPORTANTLY, you will not be verbally abusing someone else.
God bless, and Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-23 08:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yelling never solves anything. Talking seriously about it is the only way to get your message across. If you yell at someone they just shut you out and want actually "hear" a word your saying.
2006-12-23 08:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not just start yelling at someone out of the blue it could start something
so don't start nothing wont be nothing
if you do yell like that you need help
2006-12-23 08:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Maddie C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, when someone yells at me, whether I'm wrong or not, I see them as a bit touched, if you know what I mean. I'll tell you what scares me though. When my wife is so mad, she talks very softly but purposely. Then i know that she means business.
ooooohh scary.....do it again.
2006-12-23 08:07:46 · answer #11 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋