2006-12-23 07:56:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have to ask this question to perfect strangers on the internet then you already know the answer is "No".
2006-12-23 07:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on ALOT of things.
What do you fight about? Do you fight about serious issues such as the child or money? or Is it trivial like what to have for dinner?? --If you fight about serious issues, you will probably ALWAYS fight about those issues unless you can find a common ground somewhere and compromise. the trivial stuff- eh, just let it go. its trivial. the only time you should get concerned is if it escalates into something bigger.
Also too, how old are you? How young were you when you had your child? How long have you been together?? --I know they say that age really doesn't matter in love, but in marriage it does. I got married when I was 19 and had my first child at 20 (barely 20). OMG!! I was way too young. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't. I learned more about my husband AFTER we married, and I don't like what I learned.
Most importantly, are you 100% truly HAPPY with him and your life with him? --If you have any ounce of doubt in your mind, then the answer is no. Just you being on here, asking this question, makes me believe you have some doubt in your mind, otherwise you wouldn't be asking complete strangers what to do. If you have doubt now, it will only get worse once you put that ring on.
2006-12-23 15:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by guawsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change the relationship to be better.
you just need better communications skills
which luckily you can learn.
i recommend
marshall rosenberg's nonviolent communication
so you can connect empathetically with his feelings and needs
or "Getting the Love you want" which is a book.
Don't marry him until you have this problem solved.
You don't have to get him to participate.
You can solve this by learning/changing you own communications skills.
Try learning reflective listening or the speaker learner technique.
Try going to a marriage communication class.
It's just a skill like riding a bike.
well worth learning.
i used to argue with my hubby but no more!
because i learned how not to.
we still have to talk and disagree and work things out.
but no arguing.
andby the way you are not really arguing about stupid things
you are arguing about real issues like
who is in power, whether the person loves you etc.
it just surfaces as something else like what happened to the fork that was on the table. seems like something small but it's not.
follow and it will lead back to basic problems in the relationship that you can usually solve with good communications skills.
the skills will help you with parenting. too.
2006-12-23 16:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you argue a lot now, it probably want stop if you marry him. sorry this is happening, be sure you do remember , if you marry him or not, it is important to be friends and not argue for the sake of the child. The child deserves both parents even if you two never marry or marry some one else.
2006-12-23 16:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at what you said...you LOVE him, you have a CHILD with him, and you argue about STUPID things...NOTHING should get in the way of ya'll being happily married and together for the rest of your lives. Arguing about stupid things is fun, it's something to get over and make up about...it's part of the fun!
2006-12-23 16:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Roy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would really be crazy to marry him and you two argue about crazy things. I have been there and done that so I know that I wouldn't do that and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. When you two get married you will argue even more things will not get better. If you two cant get alone not being married what are you going to do married
2006-12-23 16:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Shameka j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compare the good times with the bad ones and see which outweigh the other. Somethings yall argue about think about them fiirst and ask yourself is that problem really as serious as you all are making it out to be. And make sure that you all are doing it because yall want to be togather not just for the child sake because one of yall might regret if so. One more thing being a woman understand that men dont think as rationally as woman so in many situations we have to stop and look at in their point of veiw as well as our own because sometimes we go off and they are dumbfounded because they really dont understand what the big deal was although it was major to us. Hope i was of some assistance wish you luck. Beautyb
2006-12-23 16:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by beautybstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny,
we all argue about stupid things, its how you react to the argument. If you are quick to make up and dont hold what the other person said against them then its fine!
If you really love this man and he makes you feel like the most beautiful person in the world then thats all that should matter!
Hope i Helped
Bye<33
2006-12-23 16:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by briacass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work out your problems with this guy. If you argue over stupid things, then maybe you arent right for each other. If you love him and you know he loves you too, then you should be able to get past the point of arguements. Talk things out, try to keep away from arguments.
2006-12-23 15:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you could sometimes it is hard to agree in all but you have something very in common with him-Your child.So you must care about that and find the way not to argue with your boyfriend about stupid things.Of course that you could marry him and become family, after which, everything will be different
2006-12-23 16:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Branko V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys argue over stupid things before you marry him or decide to i would go to a marriage counselor and try to work it out in counseling or otherwise when its time to get married.. your marriage is gonna be destroyed if u dont work it out
2006-12-23 16:01:08 · answer #11 · answered by Sean S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋