I'm really close with my ex-girlfriends family and her parents recently got divorced. Her younger brother is 15 and has had a troubled life due to his parents. He reminds me a lot of myself when i was his age and I wish i had someone older and reliable to talk to. I dont feel he has someone to go and talk to about girls,sex,puberty, and other teenage issues. How do I let him know he can ask me anything and talk to me without sounding creepy? How do I bring up subjects like this with him without it being ackward?
2006-12-23 07:51:59 · 9 answers · asked by bhorton986 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I think that this is great that you care enough about your ex-girlfriends brother that you want to help him. Why don't you take him to a movie, bowling, ball game, etc. and just talk to him~let him know that he can call you or whatever~whenever he needs a friend. Also let him know that whatever he may talk to you about stays between you and him. Ask him to kind of think of you as an older brother & friend. Just hang out with him!!
Best of luck to both of you & God bless!
2006-12-23 08:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tough but fair and loving, that's how every teenager wants to be treated, dont be so tough that she feels like shes in the marines, but dont mollycoddle her either. She is almost an adult, but its a scary time of life, a part of us is still children and we still need our parents as much as we did when we were 5 years old! Please dont let it get to the point where you throw her out, or send her to her fathers/gradnparents things will go downhill for her even further, she needs you two, not them. I know she seems ungrateful but by the sounds of it she also must be quite bright and hard working to be in college and to have a job, do you ever tell her that? Give her some credit I agree you shouldnt still be waking her up, it's silly, simply dont do it, let her be late, she'll learn her lesson eventually and buy herself a clock. Its natural she thinks the world of her absent dad, its because she doesnt really know him, she just has this idea of how gerat he is. People only let their aggression out on people they know the best, so dont be resentful about her liking her dad and lashing out on you, its just a sign she loves you the most! As for the "catching her nose" inccident.. i dont care how much of a cow she is, thers no excuse for shoving a younger more vunerable person around, no wonder she ran to her grandparents, he obviously frightened her! Never let that happen again
2016-05-23 02:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are "really close", he probably already knows he can talk to you. But until you make the offer, he probably won't feel comfortable bringing you into his confidence.
Let him know that you remember what it was like for you growing up, and how you wished you had someone to talk to. Let him know that you will always listen to him when he wants to talk - about anything at all. And ALWAYS try to be in a public place (restaurant, park, etc.) when you have these chats with him.
2006-12-23 07:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda risky..
but just start awt like "if u have anything u wanna ask about anythin.. dont get scared..im just here.." Hi-light the anything's on that..hehe
dont go to their house and ask him" hey u wanna know to make sex??" now thats weird. AND pervertlike.
and about girls n all other teenage problems, thats just a more free-spirited text.
oh dont tend to be overdramatic.. he might think of something else.. im 14 and thats what my older friend told me..
2006-12-23 08:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by teenagedirtbag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuff like that will come in time. I had a similar situation, and as time progressed my younger friend opened up to me. Just be there for him, and as you two become closer, the conversation will start to flow. Don't push things like this. It will come in time.
2006-12-23 13:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Zeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him. just remind him whenever he needs someone to talk or hang out or if he ever wants to know about something ask you.
just say you got his back.
if ur like doing this whole speech his proablly gonna think ur a F*a*g
2006-12-23 07:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to check out this web site :
www.kidshealth.com
if he has questions let him ask you,it is creepy to volunteer this information especially if he don't ask for it.
2006-12-23 13:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u sould say too him ''hey if u need too talk about somethings i mean boy things just ask me'' if he being awkward about it he is not ready for all that suff.
2006-12-23 07:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Becca H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop presuming--you sound creepy. You wait for him to choose his confidante (it might never be you).
2006-12-23 07:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋