My sister said something realy mean and she realy hurt my feelings and then I kicked her (lightly) and I got in trouble. I was provoked, why wasn't she in trouble. Are there cultures that would considder that fair, or even to say that she desservs more, seeing as how I was emotionally hurt more than she was physicaly hurt.
2006-12-23 07:26:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't consider one worse than the other. I believe they are both very hurtful. I've been both physically and verbally abused most of my life, I know how you feel. We should all stop and think before we speak, words are very hurtful. Sometimes we need to take a deep breath, and wonder why people say the things they do. Just remember to tell yourself your a good person and not to let this small detail bother you. Life is to short, live for the future, don't dwell on the past. Have a merry Christmas and have a happy new year.
2006-12-23 07:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like she's at wrong. I'm a girl and I can be like that to but I learned to control it. I dont like when my bf masterbates. But i wouldnt leave him for it unless he was a perv snd looked at porn. I just hope its thoughts of me and he doesnt do it a lot. She basically wants your life to revolve around her every emotion. She seems insecure and wants you to always care. (blame love movies for that) honestly, i think she will crawl back to you. I feel like you don't do much wrong and once her mind settles she will realize she was a but foolish and went too far and was a bit much. She needs to change a but first and lighten up. But until them DO NOT get with other girls or think party and honking up solves problems. Cuz you don't know what will happen that will hurt her. First of all it's impossible to get over her. Only time heals all. Some can tell you go out, read, work, keep busy. Fact is, it doesn't matter. You will hurt. Bad. It's natural. Some days worse that others you won't go a day with out it. It needs to run its course. The advice I have is to not sulk in it. Yes be sad, just don't let it run your life. Your gonna real down but you know what she will too. Delete her from Facebook so she doesn't purposely make you jealous. Don't let it fool you, she's hurt too. That's why if you delete your Facebook (de activate it for a while you can always get it back) she will be shocked and confused and not want to intimidate you. Be the bigger person. The less she knows about you the better it is. She's gonna crawl back I have a feeling. If not, continue what your doing but pain is gonna run its course. Good luck hun
2016-05-23 02:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is considered worse. The thing is that physically hurting someone costs society at large, as well as the person that was hurt in terms of time away from work, hospital care, police time, etc. When something is a drain on society's resources it will be subject to laws. While complaints for emotional abuse or harassment can be made, they are not treated as seriously because it is not as big of a drain, at least not on the surface.
2006-12-23 07:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by graff_monster@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is they saw the effect(you kicking her) but didnt see the cause(her saying somthing mean to you) and so you got in trouble. Anyway, they both hurt, while you can heal quickly when you are physically hurt, emotionally it takes sometime. I dont think culture has to do anything with this, its how we perceive things...that being physically hurt is more painful than emotional which is not true.
2006-12-23 07:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judaism is very clear that words can hurt. And that this hurt is real.
There is a Hasidic story about a man who went to a rabbi and wanted to atone for having said hurtful things about someone else. The rabbi told him that he had to take a feather pillow (very expensive in those days) out to a hill and rip it open.
The man came back to the rabbi and told him that he had done this. The rabbi said 'Now pick up all of the feathers.' The man replied that this task could not be done.
'Nor can you mend all of the harm caused by your words.'
Unfortunately, parents aren't as wise as some of the old rabbis. Try not to react to your sister when she's like that.
2006-12-23 07:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is considered worse to hurt someone physically because people can see and prove physical harm. Emotional hurt cannot be solidly proven, and most people think that one doesn't have to take offense to hurtful words. Unfortunately, physical harm is often a result of emotional hurt. So my opinion is that emotional harm is worse.
2006-12-23 07:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lara W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if you hurt someone physically you can also hurt them mentally by making them scared and/or depressed. This is seen alot in children who are abused by thier parents.+ you should not hit your siblings no matter how good it feels. also if she just called you a name then she should not get in alot of trouble, but at least get grounded. Parents pay more attention to physical abuse because they don't want thier kids to react that way when dumped or failed or fired. same thing with insulting, but you can't be sued for that. :)
2006-12-23 07:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical hurting is objective, so it is totally unacceptable in all societies. Emotional hurting is subjective, you don't have to listen to her if you don't like. So there is no law against it, unless she insults you with bad words, which is ilelgal, but hitting someone is worse. Learn to control your feelings. Just out of curiosity, what star sign are you? Aries, Aquarius,Pisces perhaps? Please let me know, I am doing a statistic.
2006-12-23 07:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowingly hurting someone is normally not right, whether it is Physically or Emotionally. You should try your best not to hurt others even when they hurt you...
Hurting someone Physically can be much more visible and therefore "proof" is easier to find that it did happen.
2006-12-23 07:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Tom♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋