I grew up in the hood and now that I am an adult I realize those people are insane. For instance, they equate bullying with courage. It is admirable in the hood to hurt people weaker than you. They also think having sex is only good if you do it with many people even those you are not attracted to. They frown upon kissing also. I see that this stuff is bad but how do I strengthen my resolve to avoid these ghetto pitfalls.
2006-12-23 07:18:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I believe you already are!!!
"When you know better, you do better!" It's that simple.
Very Cool!
2006-12-23 07:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by dearreal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you grow up doesn't have to make you the person you are. I was born and raised in an urban area, but my parents exposed me and my siblings to other lifestyles. Although, everyone may not have had that opportunity it isn't too late to change. You have to know deep down inside that this is not the life you want to live. You don't have to turn your back or think your better than anyone, but you can rise above. There are so many opportunites that await you if you take the time to learn. If possible move away from the environment. When I moved my family away, we lost friends and family because we so-called "thought we were better"!! I always had an excellent job and education, but you do get tired of the "ghetto" surroundings. Why should you have to suffer because others don't want anything out of life. Do you know how many opportunites pass those by with those types of behaviors and attitiutes. In addition, it's not only "ghetto" it everywhere in everyone... it's called ignorance and some chose to be this way instead of stepping up to the plate and learning. You have to find and surround yourself with "POSTITIVE" people who have and want things out of life. We all have struggles in our own way, but to continue this ignorant pattern you block your own success in life. Don't be afraid to go back to school if necessary, it's never too late to start. If you need to take a non-credit English course to assist with correcting how and when do speak then do so! Don't let pride get in your way of having a happy, healty future!!!
2006-12-23 15:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every culture is different. America's ghettos have developed a unique way of life, with intricate and haphazard rules of behavior which create an environment in which there can be clear winners and losers in situations that require none.
These rules of behavior seem absolutely normal for someone who hasn't stepped out of that arena and been exposed to others ways of living.
It sounds like you have been exposed to and embraced other lifestyles which are more in line with your basic tenets of morality and individual style.
You might want to embrace the idea that the ghetto lifestyle is necessary to survive in that urban environment, but not always appropriate in other settings.
Don't waste your mental energy decrying a lifestyle that you alone cannot change. Just focus on the appropriateness of your own lifestyle in your current environment.
2006-12-23 15:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel you have made that first step and have seen these things are wrong.
Coming from a bad place such as this does not mean you are trapped in this way of thinking.
You see it is wrong and just do not do it. Having friends that think this is OK would not be the best thing for you either. To my way of thinking. If a alcoholic or a drug addict keeps hanging with the same friends or family who have the same tendencies then one should not hang out with these people....Change of friends is in order. Family we are stuck with, sorry to say...
Good luck and I feel now that you can see, you will do fine.
2006-12-23 15:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its tough. My ex-girlfriend grew up in the ghetto. Sweet girl, but she had some really strange ways of looking at things. She found that she wasn't all that comfortable in "normal" environments. The fact that you realize that the ghetto ideals that you mentioned are misguided is a step in the right direction. My ex also tried to rid herself of these ideals with varying degrees of sucess. She still had a total distrust of people in authority...mainly police officers...she always thought they were out to get her or something. She also thought that all men were like the ghetto guys...always out to just sleep with anyone. Hopefully I helped to change her opinion of men.
2006-12-23 15:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Link 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acts 2:42
2006-12-23 17:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wise man once said, 'You can take the man out of the ghetto but you will never take the ghetto out of the man.'
2006-12-23 15:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by BAnne 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋