This co-worker has lied to me about so many things that I can't count them. I have caught her in lies though I haven't confronted her with them because I haven't had the chance yet and I don't know how to approach it. She also complains about everything, from her not getting enough hour at work (but refusing to open up her availability), the customers, the other employees, her step-kids and family life, and just about everything else.
Some of the lies that I have caught her in: She claims that she had a kidney transplant 6 years ago, but another time when she was listing off medicines that she took she only said an anti-depressant and a pain pill.
She always says that she's got another job paying 3x as much money with the same hours and type of work and that she's waiting for the right time to quit this job. It's been two months that she's been saying this. When I last asked her about it she said that she decided not to work there because of the hours.
ANY ADVICE???
2006-12-23 07:10:00 · 7 answers · asked by picturekevin23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The other thing is that I work with this person in a photography studio 2 days a week so it's impossible to avoid her. It's just irriating that she's lying and complaing so much to my face.
I do believe that she may be reaching out for a friend, but I could not stand to be a friend to this person because she has this type or personality. As well as believing that everyone should do favors for her, but never returning the favor.
2006-12-23 15:33:46 · update #1
If it is impossible to avoid her, learn to tune her out. Once in a while you might ask a question as if you truly believed her but were puzzled about an inconsistency in her story, like is that all the medication you're taking? Why have you stopped taking your steroids? She will be baffled. "Oh, didn't you tell me you had a kidney transplant?" You could express concern and sympathy over her weight gain and say "well being fat is better than having to be on dialysis though isn't it?" She will begin to avoid you.
2006-12-23 07:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone just like that. The person i know said she had cancer and gave me her kids and a whole buch of lies to go along with that. She still lies like that and I have one of her children that still live with me because she is the same way. Any way I just ignore her becase a person like that you cant believe anything that comes out of their mouth. Try talking to this person about it maybe she is calling out for help or attention, that is what they usually want.If its attention they want then explain you will get this person help and help her. If she refuses to admit she has a problem explain to her that when she lies she hurts her dearest friends and family and that you will support her getting help for her problem but she has to be willing to cooperate. Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 15:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by lildlege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question,I am related to one and have dated a person like that. It doesn't do much good to point out when they are lying, they just make up more b/s and/or become angry and a huge argument and fight ensue. Best to ignore them and only point out what may hurt someone. Good luck.
2006-12-23 15:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting this liar have some much power over your life. stop worrying about her, stop thinking about her, let her lie to someone else. Just say hi and bye. Be polite and stop letting her rob you of energy. This is not a positive sitituation. She is draining you. Let her be and think more productive things.
2006-12-23 15:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by david r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with someone that has a nasty attitude, always talking **** about other people. I say to walk away shaking your head a couple times when you feel they are talking about bs. Maybe she'll get the hint.
2006-12-23 15:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, you seem to have a lot on your hands! I find that sarcasm does a little to make them stop, but ignoring is the ultimate power. She'll stop when she notices that you won't give any sympathy and honestly don't care.
2006-12-23 15:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by ismartsissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a hit man just ask on y-answers i have mett 2 that do a great job on here
2006-12-23 16:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Brian_Tc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋