i have a hard time with my husband wanting to read all the nude mags. i know hes a man, but shouldnt he be happy with the real thing walking around? (im not ugly) can you please explain the way the man thinks, and why he would want to look? if youve seen one, youve seen em all, right?
2006-12-23 07:09:34 · 16 answers · asked by *never give up* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and honestly, no i dont really check men out myself
2006-12-23 07:13:40 · update #1
Girl, The worst thing a women can do is take this magazine thing to heart.
He is with you cause he loves you and you should have no threat in a magazine.
Lets put this in simple terms.You like to look at beautiful things, Right?? You like a nice vase of flowers or a landscape of nice green trees and plants.But what if you were told that the only vase of flowers you were allowed to look at was the ones in your home. and the only yard you could look at was yours.See, even though you love your yard and you love to see those flowers on your counter, they are not the world of beauty god gave us all alone.
Just like you can appreciate the house down the streets landscape, it doesn't mean your going to go steel it, right?
You know as well as any other person in this world god made man to be most attracted to a women than any other thing he created.Why?cause we are so indirectly UN focused and easily distracted that he new he needed to make it one thing special.
He still is attracted to you and always will be but he is a man with an eye for gods art work.See it for what it really is and don't worry about the inevitable.
2006-12-23 07:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For a man there is a constant smorgasboard of women out there; this is the way it has always been and it is the way it will always be. For a married man, on the other hand, since he has made a commitment, it is not proper or correct to view porn or any kind, "soft porn" included. It is a sin, it is an insult to his wife, and it toxic to his personal thought life since it tends to alienate him from you.
It is natural for men to want to look at all pretty women, but there is such a thing as self control. When a man marries he makes the choice to control and commit his urges for the sake of loving only one woman. After all, even if a man could have sex with as many women as he pleased, women will always want to be the only one, which is natural. You stated that you were pretty and Mr. M hopes that you are taking care of yourself as part of honoring the marriage bond.
I highly suggest that you confront him firmly. After all, he did marry YOU, did he not? Viewing "those" magazines is adultery, plain and simple.
Mr. M on "booty magazines."
2006-12-23 07:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
absolutely not...see i tried to have this argument with an ex once b/c she didnt understand why i would watch porn then and again...she was upset and took it as an insult since she was there...the big difference is that you are there so its not as appealing. you are the same thing walking around everyday, so thats not anything new to look at, that doesnt mean ur bad to look at but variety is better. so would you rather him look at nude magazines or go out and find the variety? b/c one way or another variety is a must, every guy gets tired of the same thing over and over and over and over without at least SEEING something else. this is a subject that women in general need to let go, b/c it will never change.
2006-12-23 07:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by gwbgod 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some guys like to look even if they have a very beautiful woman...it's a turn on for them...to see a woman in a mag...these women arn't real just women they enjoy looking at. If he is obsessed with them and need them to get intimate then there is a problem and you should be uncomfortable.
2006-12-23 07:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The books and magazines are fantasies which, if he is not careful, will take over his real life and his wife and lose them both. People are easily addicted to pornography and you should point this out to him. Try to "spice-up" your marriage, get "kinky" with him and ask him what "naughty but nice" things he always wanted you to do but was to embarrass to ask. The point being, is that he needs to put down those magazines down and for the "real thing."
2006-12-23 07:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by nowhere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just fantasizing to me....probably because much of his romantic life with you has become routine. Try shaking thing up a bit by doing something wild but mysterious...you have to leave something for his imagination. Good Luck.
2006-12-23 07:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by curiousJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone loves some eye-candy. You can't say that you wouldn't mind seeing a hot male with little to no clothes on, in a nice pose. Just because you're married, doesn't mean that you shouldn't be allowed to look in magazines.
2006-12-23 07:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your hubby is a pervert, I'm sorry but I had a ex who use to watch porn all the time, and I never understood that
2006-12-23 15:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i think that doesnt make much sense, i mean for a married guy.
i would do that if im single, but not when i get married, it feels discustin.
but i duno, maybe hes just tryin to educate him self :D
2006-12-23 07:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by DB9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's see now, YOU are jealous of a magazine....you have far too much time on your hands and no real problems. Get a life and leave your husband to look at whatever he wants.
2006-12-23 07:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋