stress?or depression?

Question

13? is that normal? i mean im always getting blamed for everything at home and school, im not that smart(i have a 73 average), i only really have 2 friends and only 1 is in my grade and none of them are popular(me neither), i get yelled at at home and slapped, im like 20 pounds overweight, i suck at gym(im not athletic), i can hear peoplae always whispering about my friends and i guess me to, im really quite, im trying to find out who i am to and what i want from life, and im having the normal teenage feelings. what should i do? i dont really think that i deserve any of this, i never ask for anything that i know that i won't get, im trustworthy, respectful, nice, caring, honest. i cant see a counsellor because my parents are afraid of somebody they know seeing them or me there. and im a girl

Answer 1

go to the school counselor, dear. she won't tell your parents and she can help you.

Answer 2

You have a lot going on!!
You need to see your school counselor and they will not tell your parents unless you make homicidal or suicidal statements to them.

A lot of what you are dealing with is "normal", especially if you are in Special Ed, but that does not make it any easier.

Please, speak with your counselor at school.

You sound very stressed and depressed; the two often go hand-in-hand.

Your parents should not be slapping you around either!
It sounds as though they need to learn better parenting techniques.

You sound like a very good person who has more on your "plate" than you are able to objectively deal with and a counselor can be helpful.

Teenagers can be so cruel and I PROMISE that this will not last forever, but for now, you sound as though you need some guidance that cannot be provided over the internet.

My son dealt with the cruelty from classmates throughout middle and high school and did not want to go to college because he thought the students would be just as bad as high school.

The first day of college he came home and said, "Mom, I would have to show up in my underwear before anyone would laugh at me. College is the bomb!"

It will get better but for now, you need some assistance in dealing with all that is coming your way.

Do not change who you are, "trustworthy, respectful, nice, caring, honest", because of the jerks you have to deal with.
Stay true to yourself and get some help!

Answer 3

Good for you! You're reaching out and seeking answers; that is the beginning of the start.

First, it is not depression. It is stress based on your hormones and your stage of life. Your age is when children begin nature's process of "cutting the apron string". There will be many fights with your parents as you develop your own value system.

Second, although you mentioned the negatives about yourself first, you also had enough sense and self-respect to add the good things. Remember, we are given the gifts we are supposed to have. Concentrate on those, build on those, use them to better yourself and your community.

Volunteering is a great way to make a new friend (even if it's an old lady like me). I have several young friends. That way, you're not around your schoolmates, no one will be talking about you, you will be aiding those who need help and you might just find some more great things about yourself. Try the Red Cross, Habitat for Humanity, library, hospitals, nursing homes, YMCA, literacy programs, mentoring programs. You sound as if you would do well in any of those. You will be in thoughts and prayers...

Answer 4

Just calm down. When you are walking somewhere, stop take a breath and quit thinking about everything around you. This is all is far too common.If your parents won't let you see a counsler, then call a friend and just vent. My b/f went through a lot with me, he would just listen. I was depressed at 13 too and he listened to everything I said. He understood to the best of this abilities that when I was 13 half my family died and I felt lost and empty.
Whatever you do, DO NOT FORGET OR CHANGE WHO YOU ARE. Being popular is just another way of being a slu.t. By my frosh. year, I had guys always asking me out and tons of friends, but I was not "popular".

LIFE GETS BETTER. DON'T WORRY!!

Answer 5

first of all ever is different. just because you not good in gym ( athelic) doesnt mean your not good at doing something else. start believing in your self. and have repect for yourself. and who cares what other thinks. just ignore them . Just think you must be doing something right they noticed you. get a piece of paper and write down all the good stuff about you, vice versa all the bad. and then go back and try to change the bad. and really no one is smart. some just know more, but that don't mean that they are smarter. so stop being hard on yourself. and enjoy what you have. things will get better.

Answer 6

wow, i feel sorry for your parents. I thought it was impossible to live in the 21st century and still have to deal with ignorance.
Since they wont help you I recommend you to see you school's counselor, maybe he/she can help you. And maybe the counselor will talk to your parents and convince your parents to talk to you about you and to try to understand you.
I had a similar problem in 6th grade and I had an eating disorder and the psychiatrist said that I only did that it in order to get attention, because i didnt like the school i was going to(i moved to that school the last 2 1/2 months of school). So i would recommend you to talk to your parents about moving to a better school before your problem gets bigger

Answer 7

You sound exactly like me at 13. I'm 28 now...engaged to be married, college degree and a job in public relations making $50,000 a year, lost a lot of weight, drive a sports car, and love my few close friends I do have, and developed better and closer relationships with those who matter most in my life.

The kids who got straight A's...they're now hooked on drugs, had kids in their early 20's, no college degree, they never had a chance to live exciting lives, never left their home town...and most of them divorced before 30 yrs of age.

You'll be fine. My parents were against me seeing a councelor too. I didn't care, I had to speak with someone. I had a guidance councelor at my school who allowed for me to come down and talk to her during my study halls.This helped a lot. Without a few close friends and my guidance councelor, i made it through. Sometimes you need outside help.

Answer 8

Talk to your school counselor..... 13 is a tough age... my daughter is 14 and going through simplar troubles. However she can talk to me about anything. I belive you are going through some depression. Find someone you can talk to. I wish you all the luck in the world. Just lift up your chin, put a smile on your face. Things will get better. I promise!

Answer 9

i used to have the same problem when i was your age..
i thought i was ugly (well those arent your exact worrd)
my home life wasnt that good, and i didnt have too many
friends because of the fact i was quiet. now im 16, and
i have many good friends, alot of people like me. im not
quiet anymore. what helped me was joining clubs i liked
at school (like art club, and cultural club). i got to meet
people who had the same interest as me, and we became
friends. also, i talked to my school counseler. middle scool
can be tough. but trust me, once your in high school, things
will get better. everyone just blends in together. oh if you
think people are talking about you, honestly they prolly are.
people talked about me.. i realized that my main goal in
life wasnt to please those snobby people. but you should
get into clubs, even if they're not from your school. they
have many cool classes at a community college. thats
where i went (a creative writing class)...

hope everything works out
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Answer 10

it is normal except the slapping you need to do somehting if you start feelind suicidal its dangerous and people who make fun of youjust dont listen im sorry for them but apperently you are better them even if you arent amazingly athletic , skinny or smart if you have good friends dont let them get to you . and maybe join a club or something to meet more people and ill be your friend if you want to i mean i have realy good friends and every one needs a good friend..

Answer 11

Very normal as your body is going through changes and that is a VERY tough time to be in!
Relax it passes!