Are high stadards bad? I think mines are attainable?

Question

I have a problem because I've been told by everyone around me that my "standards" are too high. I think this is somewhat true in my relationships, with people I associate with I've always held certain people to certain standards. As of late i'm finding myself more and more frustrated and dissapointed in people around me. I can't help it that I've always had high standards for myself and others around me. Is it wrong? Should I lower my standards? I don't feel that I should have to. My standards I think are not too hgh, I mostly just want what i think is best for people. Apparently they don't agree. As of right now since i have a hard time hiding my dissapproval most of my relationships with peope are pretty strained. I have no idea what I could do to some how compromise with peolpe. I know people are human and they make mistakes but that doesn't mean you have to be stupid about it. ::sigh:: I don't know what to do if anyone has any suggestions I am more than welcome to hearing them.

Answer 1

No standards are not a bad thing- and having high standards for your friends is a good thing, I think- unless they go along the lines of "they have to have money" and things like that. but honesty, integrety, things like that are good to have high standards about.

I have the same problem, I have only one good friend. the rest are what I like to call aquantances. I have "bar" friends that I knnow about their life and they know about mine, but I only hang out with them at the bar when their drama is tolerable because I am drinking, lol. Then I have other people I see at the store and catch up with life, but do not hang out with them.

The reason for my one good friend is because she is like me, has high standards and we have an understanding. She doesnt lie, I dont lie, and we will tell you some thing that you do not want to hear to your face- but since we think the same way we do not take it as an insult, just the truth. Do not worry too much about what other people say they are just mad that you call it how you see it.

Answer 2

This is a difficult and sensitive issue. I personally do not think high standards are bad. However, I have learned personally that I have to give everyone some slack for my own personal sanity and for the sake of my relationships with co-workers and friends. My biggest issue is with people who create constant drama in their lives and then complain about it non-stop. I just recently cut ties with a girlfriend who spends way too much money and then constantly complains about being broke and barely paying bills. So I guess for me I have had to cut some ties and yes I hear from many people around me that I have "high standards", buy I don't think you should give up or lessen your standards just because others around you think you should. I usually take it on a case by case basis and determine what is workable and what is not. Good Luck.

Answer 3

No you keep to your high standards,thats a GOOD thing.Because you do have high standards you will surely be disappointed because a lot of people has low standards and you can detect them.and people Will disappoint you,but DO NOT,lower your standards for anyone......All these mistakes and stupidity is real and people do that everyday..i don,t know you but I appreciate you for keeping your stands high.When your standards are low you will fall for anything,but if your expectations are high? it brings the best out in people.....

Answer 4

First off it is not wrong to want the best for people, but if you are always picking at their faults than yes your standards may be to high. No one is perfect and if they say they are than they are full of it.

Answer 5

it is fine to have high standards for yourself but you are going to be a very lonely person. Not everyone is going to live up to your standard and that is something you just need to accept.