2006-12-23 06:54:48 · 24 answers · asked by Jessie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
he even had the nerve to tell me that he doesn't wash the bottles because I'm the one who chose to bottle feed. I told him that it's not as easy as it seems but he wouldn't listen. he's just an imbicile.
2006-12-23 07:13:04 · update #1
First, you have to make him understand the reason you chose not to breastfeed your child... Did you have to return to work and it would have been too difficult to pump, did you have a medical condition that would have made it too risky for the baby, or was it simply a matter of preference? I'm in favor of breastfeeding, but I'm not going to give you grief for not doing it. You mother as you see fit, and as long as your child is healthy and loved, you're doing no wrong by your choice. Your husband needs to get over it-- acting like a child and refusing to help you in the feeding process won't make you want to breastfeed any more than when you first decided not to. I'd bring this up on neutral ground, not when he leaves a pile of dirty bottles in the sink after he loads the dishwasher with the other dishes. One more thing: you are the one in control of your emotions, he can't "make" you feel anything you don't want to. If you know you're not a bad mother, stop feeling as though you are. It's his problem.
2006-12-23 09:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man will ever understand a woman's decision for making such choices. If you would have tried and it didn't work maybe you would have felt like a failure. I tried for both of my kids and neither one of them would latch. I struggled and got very frustrated and so did the babies. I really wanted to, tried and it didn't work. It is good for baby for you to breastfeed because it helps to build the immune system and helps protect against allergies and what not, but it's not dyer. If you had breastfed your baby..or would be... you would be doing so 24/7. Breastfed babies eat all day long! It's bottle feeding and that takes out a very, very big part of your day, imagine breastfeeding. You would have less if any time at all for him. He should support your decision in whatever you do. Surely you would have done the same if your places were switched.
2006-12-23 15:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by dejesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesse I think that you should tell him that you have the choice of breast feeding or the bottle. Some women like to use the bottle and some of the just don't feel right. You know what is best for you. Don't make him force you into doing something that you don't want to do.
2006-12-23 15:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Olamide O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him until the day he passes something as big as a watermelon out of an opening the size of a lemon then he might can talk. Or if you had a c-section until the day he is cut on.
Bottlefeeding is not wrong, that is what i done and i do not feel bad for it nor did i feel like a bad mom.
Tell him if he wants to breatfeed so bad to grow breasts and produce milk on his own. Tell him there is more to do with a baby then just feeding alone.
Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 15:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding works ONLY if it works for BOTH mom and baby. The baby needs to be fed no matter what, and if you can't (or won't) breastfeed, you must give the baby formula.
Although breastfeeding is "natural", it is learned both by mom and baby. Not every mom and baby pair can breastfeed. And even though it's better both for mom and baby to breastfeed, there are also advantages to formula feeding:
The person feeding the baby a bottle can interact (make eye contact, etc.) with the baby in a way you can't with breast feeding. Babies who take formula tend to sleep longer because of the curd it forms in the stomach, it makes them feel fuller longer. AND someone besides mom can feed the baby.
Ultimately, breastfeeding or bottle feeding is a way to feed your baby, not a religion!
2006-12-23 15:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
this is not the time for your husband to be anything but loving towards you. You are NOT being a bad mom because you chose to bottle feed. I wish we could tell men to grow boobs and see how they like somone pulling on them every few hours. He needs a major wake-up call and his attitude now better not reflect on what type of dad he will be, either.
2006-12-23 16:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that all mothers do not breast feed there children, and that it doesn't make you a bad mother. tell him he should do it then. but its your choice if you want to do it or not. I didn't. but all my sisters did. you just have to do whats right for you and no one else. and don't let your husband get you to feel that way. he probably thinks all other woman do it and why your not, tell him the reason and he should stop it. good luck.
2006-12-23 15:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to say this but it sounds like your husband is a total ***......I tried to breastfeed for the 1st 3 days and went to formula, i could not handle it...My boyfriend was a little disapointed but it is your body and your decision. Tell him to take your son or daughter and strap them to his chest the entire day and follow him around pulling on his nipples and see how wonderful it is.......Hang in there and good luck to you and your husband.
2006-12-23 22:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Newmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him that you went through enough carrying the baby for 9 months. then you had to deliver that baby and we all know how painful that is. so if he wants to do all that and then still have someone give him a hard time for not breastfeeding and especially your spouse, then go right ahead. it is your body and your decision to make.
2006-12-23 19:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by hotmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him by bottle feeding that he gets to bond with his child as well... i had no interest in breast feeding my kids and they turned out just fine...
2006-12-23 16:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by diane b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋