i used to be in an abusive relationship,but no more.and,i was offered counseling,but,i felt i didnt need to.its been a year from that.but,now i have new neighbors,and the other night,they were fighting,and he was hiting her,and they have two children.that brought back,bad memories,that i had put away.and now,im depressed,and just cant get those thoughts out o my head.i feel as if im still with my ex.i feel,scared,and theres no rason for me to be scared.but,should i go to counseling,or it ill go away,like it did before?
2006-12-23 06:49:55 · 5 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you do need to go to counseling...but you also need to try and befriend your new neighbor and let her know that there is a way out. Sometimes (and I have been there) the best counseling is helping other people through what has happened to you. You do have a reason to be scared, once hurt the pain stays. Bruises go away, mental scars are there forever. If you help her it will help YOU alot.
2006-12-24 13:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through, the worst of emotions coming back to haunt you. At first, I need to know wether the problem with your neighbour is solved. Wether you should inform the authority about it. Solve the matter, for the sake of your neighbour, and for their children. Then you may find peace in your heart over this matter. Also, I understand how sometimes going to a counselling can seem a little petronizing, if you need to, chat it over with a friend, a relative, you will feel like a burden just lift off of your chest.
I wish you all the best with the matter, and your neighbour's too. I worry about the wife and the children.
2006-12-23 17:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Aleckii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never goes away,get counselling before you get into the same kind of relationship that's what usually happens....
2006-12-23 19:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time the feelings will go away. To put your mind at ease you could have phoned the cops as an anonymous caller.
2006-12-23 17:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. it can't hurt. It will help you learn to ease the anxiety.
2006-12-23 15:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋