Are high stadards bad? I think mines are attainable?

Question

I have a problem because I've been told by everyone around me that my "standards" are too high. I think this is somewhat true in my relationships, with people I associate with I've always held certain people to certain standards. As of late i'm finding myself more and more frustrated and dissapointed in people around me. I can't help it that I've always had high standards for myself and others around me. Is it wrong? Should I lower my standards? I don't feel that I should have to. My standards I think are not too hgh, I mostly just want what i think is best for people. Apparently they don't agree. As of right now since i have a hard time hiding my dissapproval most of my relationships with peope are pretty strained. I have no idea what I could do to some how compromise with peolpe. I know people are human and they make mistakes but that doesn't mean you have to be stupid about it. ::sigh:: I don't know what to do if anyone has any suggestions I am more than welcome to hearing them.

Answer 1

NEVER lower your standards for ANYBODY. The people who are your true friends will respect your stand; those who don't never were friends to begin with. There are some people who are around only when things are good. When they're bad, those people can't be found. If you think that what you want is attainable, don't worry about what the world or your friends think. While they're judging you, there's always someone judging them. Things like that have a way of backfiring, depending on what type of judgement(s) are being made--those people doing the judgement(s) often don't know / see that. I noticed one troubling part about your explanation: I picked up that you may be telling your friends how to run their lives a little bit to fit into what you expect from people. They're starting to be annoyed. "Put the shoe on the other foot"--would you want THEM telling you, even slightly, how to run your life? There's advice and there's bossiness. People will take the first if they ask for it; they only take the second from a higher power or employer. You run your life and let them run theirs. The "wash will wash itself out"--everything will work itself out. Have A Wonderful Holiday Season!

Answer 2

I understand completely. I am the same way, and therefore have very few relationships with people at all. Ironically, am having a discussion with my best friend now that has turned bad because of my standards. Just be careful that the standards you hold people to, are standards that you absolutely, no doubt can conform to yourself, considering all extenuating circumstances. Good luck.

Answer 3

you'll be able to tell quickly whether the person deserves another chance. Once you find someone special, you'll be thrilled to find out that they felt the same visceral connection you did in the first moments of your meeting. don't change who you are to make yourself right for somebody and don't settle for less then you deserve or desire , people will try to bring you down to their level ..

Answer 4

THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING HIGH STANDARDS FOR YOUR SELF, YOU CAN DECIDE WHO YOU HANG AROUND WITH, BUT YOU CAN'T MAKE THEM HAVE THE SAME HIGH STANDARDS THAT YOU HAVE. THAT'S JUST THE WAY LIFE IT.

Answer 5

I lowered my standards once, and I'm still stuck with him. Hahaha

Answer 6

Yes and if you really believed your standards were reasonable, you wouldn't have posted this question.

Answer 7

If your standards are high, what are your expectations? If you have unrealistic expectations of people, you will always be disappointed.

Answer 8

Keep your high standards!! I used to have them, now it's low credit scores & pay check to pay check... love doesn't pay the bills!!! STAY SMART.