2006-12-23 06:44:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel that jealousy comes from a self esteem issue, even if you think you do not have one. Learn to love yourself and know that you are worthy. You have as much to offer as any other girl out there. Jealousy also comes from being betrayed in the past which creates a lack of trust in a relationship, whether or not it is the same guy that hurt you before. Jealousy is a self destructive feeling and can ruin many relationships. I suffered o.k. OK I suffer from this problem too! But I am learning to get passed it because I do not want to ruin this beautiful marriage that I am a part of right now. I have to tell myself everyday that I am beautiful and that my husband is trustworthy. I think sometimes that my jealousy is also a form of wanting to control my relationship. I just do not want any one or anything to take away what I have. And I know how trifling women can be and I do not trust them at all! So, I have come to the realization that I am who I am and I am OK with that. And that no matter what I do or do not do, I can not control anybody Else's actions. Jealousy is such an ugly thing. I hate it and want it to leave my life alone. It takes alot of work, self work! Take time to get to know who you are and just how valuable a person you are. Once we learn this, then and only then can we overcome this disease called jealousy.
2006-12-23 07:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy often stems from a lack of self-esteem and confidence. It is not an easy thing to "just get over". It may take some years of work on your part, with a good Counselor to get to the root of why you are feeling jealousy. Happy, confident people normally feel happy for the successes of others and do not feel envy.
Now, if this is something with your partner, are they giving you reason to suspect something? You may be jealous due to thier unbalanced level of attention toward another? You may need to look further. Still, don't waste your time being jealous. Just get to the root of the problem and either end the relationship or get help for the relationship.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-23 14:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy can drive you crazy if you let it.It's a sickness.I was married to a very insecure man.He kept me isolated from my family and friends.I was walking around with a broken spirit,feeling dead inside.I left him and I would never go back to living like that.Now I am enjoying my freedom and loving it .Major change in my children also.Ask yourself what is making you feel so insecure.Only you can answer that question.If it's really serious don't be afraid to seek some therapy.
2006-12-23 15:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe jealousy stems from insecurity and not knowing your own self worth. Being jealous does not do anything but cause you grief. It is not worth it
2006-12-23 14:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jan l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
realise that you will never be perfect and there is always gonna be someone smaller, bigger, prettier, uglier, happier and more depressed even more jealous than you. Find out what causes this because it's meaning you are not so comfortable with your surroundings...Depends on what situation to. YOur just as good remember that!
2006-12-23 14:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u cant afford therapy,become friends with the person before hooking up with them ,that way u can find out what u need 2 know about them and see if u can really trust them.If u can, then u will have no reason to be jealous because u know what they r about.
2006-12-23 14:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by kita B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You realize it's childish and non-productive to be jealous.
It doesn't change anything except to push the person you care about away from you.
2006-12-23 14:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
who ever it is your jealous of just think that you don't have to be someone else to be excepted. some people are jealous of you you just don't know it. JUST BE YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-12-23 14:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Pinkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you don't have the right bf.
2006-12-23 14:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
counseling
2006-12-23 14:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋