My husband is emotionally abusing me since last 2 years.Since the third day of my marriage.I am fed up but being in indian society I cannot walk away from this marriage ,but I was away from him for last 9 months and it was a good time for me.HE keep doing it evry now and then ,though I try my level best, but it seems nothing seems to satisfy and he keep comparing me with his ex girlfriend and current girlfriend.HE keep seeing my negative points point only in me.He hardly cares about me,even he is least bothered about how I feel and what I feel???I am getting tired of it.I am living with my inlaws and him in QATAR.Away from my family.I don't know what to do and where to go.I even ask him if he wants to walk out of this relationship he can or let go me,but he didn't.I don't know what to do??I maso much confused,heart wants him and mind says no.what to do.as I Always listen to heart,now i am very much confused....Help me OUt
2006-12-23 06:36:28 · 20 answers · asked by Lonely_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hlep what to do ,How to make him mine.He is so mcu in love with his ex girlfrind that i\he isnot able to forget her.
2006-12-23 06:38:19 · update #1
Every coin has two sides. It’s amazing that most people have asked you to leave him by just hearing your side of the story (a very unclear story at that). I think you are reacting to the fact that you are alone with him and his family in a foreign hostile country. Come on girl, work on your marriage. Work on your shortcomings then he won’t have any negative points to throw at you. Why should his ex be better than you? Become the woman he wants and you will blow the competition away (that should give you immense satisfaction as well). Just be what he wants and he will be crawling on the wall for you…trust me. Take-up the challenge, don’t run away. Wishing you and your family, “A Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year.”
2006-12-24 00:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lady though heart is a better barometer of love, yet when it comes to taking sensible decisions, its the head that guides u better. So go by ur head. Leave this man as soon as u can. A guy who compares wife with past gfs is nothing but a disgruntled husband and can give no happiness to wife. The fact that he has current girlfriends too and compares with them as well, adds salt to injury. So seek a divorce as soon as u can. for this u will have to first walk out of the relationship and live separeted for sometime- may be a year. File ur divorce in a court of law as soon as u can.
All the best
2006-12-23 07:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sumit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well farah -I pity for your family life. I wish that your husband and in laws would be more nice to you. I also appreciate you for being with him even after knowing that he has affair with other girls. I dont know wht that case is but it can be either of the following.
1) He is a good person- Being more possesive on you.
2) He is testing you.
3) He doubts you for no good reason
4) He is really not intreasted in married life.
5) He likes to enjoy life now without life that you are his life.
6) You are rude to him
7) You are not compatible on the bed
8)He might have someother relationship
9) You might be more compatible on the bed -which will increase his doubt on you.
10) You might have some rashes on vaginal areas which make him pain while having sex.
or
11) you might have misunderstood
None of the other problems are un resolvable.Just write down your exact problem and your good times you had from your family on a piece of paper.But I strongly recommend that before taking any strong decisions you consult your doctor or psychatrist with your hubby
2006-12-23 07:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into bed make love to him better than ever before and then tell him you are leaving him and getting a divorce because he cannot satisfy you at all. Tell him his penis is just too small to satisfy you, that you want a real man not some wanna be.
Leave him once and for all, he'll know what he's lost, and feel bad, don't ever take him back. He's worthless.
2006-12-23 07:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sad for u , i think u love him and want to work things out in ur Marriage but u feel hopeless , all u can do is try to talk with him ask him what he want from u and tell him how u feel , don't scream it or shout it out talk to him when u r alone with him when his in a good mood , and none of his family r around .as far as his old g/f try to find out what his interest is in her , he wake up soon and realize how he is hurting u bu u need to talk with him its the only way
2006-12-23 11:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is with you and not his ex. He probably just misses his days of being a single bachelor. He is scared of commitment and responsibility, and taking it out on you by constantly reminding you of how great his single days were. You need to stop taking it and snap back at him. Tell him if his ex is so great, he can walk out the door and go see her. By doing this you
1. instill the fear into him that you aren't going to sit around and listen to him whine like a child
2. Remind him that this person who he thinks is so great, isn't because if she was he would still be with her. Plus she probably wouldn't take him back anyways.
2006-12-23 07:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is no good for you...he is in love with someone else...and where does that leave you? I understand you are in Indian culture but I mean this man is hurting you daily and that is wrong to! You need to leave this man he will never be true to you! He will not leave you either because he wants the power
2006-12-23 07:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never forget his ex-girlfriend. He is in love with her and not with you. Please do not ask how to make him happy, he will never be happy with you even if you do rarest of rare thing for him in this world. Love is more important for happiness. You need to train your heart not to ask something that is not possible. I love Ash from the bottom of my heart but can I marry her? So do what is right and do not force yourself in miserable condition. More you give him the more he would like to push you because he thinks you are miserable and cannot go against him in any way. First make your mind and heart go in one direction then any one can help you. Help yourself God is there to help you.
2006-12-23 15:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ur right .Heart does matter .It matters too much.Icant tell u to forget him and i wont suggest u to leave him.you should pray.God knows better,If its not good for u to stay with him, God will change ur state of mind,or his if u pray.
Best wishes
2006-12-23 07:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He loves someone else and is hurting you. Even if you like him it doesnt seem like things are going to change very soon. He is not worth waiting for. Go find yourself someone who will love you unconditionally.
2006-12-23 06:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋