Ever feel lost?Nothing and no one is the way it should be,and how you do all you can to no avail?Future bleak?

Question

As if your purpose is gone? Ever feel like you are invisible,and when someone does say something to you they make the solution sound so simple,just because their life is simple?Ever live a complex life,and find that "happy" people treat you as if life is smooth and effortless,when it isnt to you? Ever run into those people who are content with near perfect lives,and have things to live for...so you feel you cant possibly explain or convey your situation to them,or to anyone,because they always claim that you have the things in life that they have,event though you dont?And unfair comments like "everyone is loved" "everyone has friends" "you do mean the world to someone" "atleast one person every night before they go to sleep thinks about you" "there is never anything to cry about" "life is what you make it" when its far from truth,it being so dismissive for them to assume that kit comes standard with every life?Like their intentional ignorance of your situation feels like bliss to them.

Answer 1

Maybe you should sign off the internet and do something about it.

How about that?

Answer 2

This is going to sound a little silly but bear with me. I was feeling like you did until recently. And someone not very articulate simply told me to get a grip and remember all of the good things about myself. Maybe I was on the verge of snapping out of it and this helped push me over the edge, but once I started remembering how I was at my happy points it helped. Another really silly thing that helped me was listening to fun music. I know, sounds overly simplistic...and I understand your are living a complex life, but sometimes it is the simple/obvious things that make the most difference.

Try not to over analyze things and don't cozy up into your despair. At the very least you have the people on this site who are taking the time to answer you and help in their unique way. I know I have been helped here by many.

I have pasted the lyrics to an Abba song below, hopefully they will make you smile, even if its a rueful one.

Good luck and warm concern.


Chiquitita, tell me whats wrong
Youre enchained by your own sorrow
In your eyes there is no hope for tomorrow
How I hate to see you like this
There is no way you can deny it
I can see that youre oh so sad, so quiet

Chiquitita, tell me the truth
Im a shoulder you can cry on
Your best friend, Im the one you must rely on
You were always sure of yourself
Now I see youve broken a feather
I hope we can patch it up together

Chiquitita, you and I know
How the heartaches come and they go and the scars theyre leaving
Youll be dancing once again and the pain will end
You will have no time for grieving
Chiquitita, you and I cry
But the sun is still in the sky and shining above you
Let me hear you sing once more like you did before
Sing a new song, chiquitita
Try once more like you did before
Sing a new song, chiquitita

So the walls came tumbling down
And your loves a blown out candle
All is gone and it seems too hard to handle
Chiquitita, tell me the truth
There is no way you can deny it
I see that youre oh so sad, so quiet

Chiquitita, you and I know
How the heartaches come and they go and the scars theyre leaving
Youll be dancing once again and the pain will end
You will have no time for grieving
Chiquitita, you and I cry
But the sun is still in the sky and shining above you
Let me hear you sing once more like you did before
Sing a new song, chiquitita
Try once more like you did before
Sing a new song, chiquitita
Try once more like you did before
Sing a new song, chiquitita

Answer 3

Ever run into someone who asks questions all the time instead of confronting the basically simple, yet infinitely complex, problem of identifying what exactly it is one would like out of life and then making some steps to get it? Ever consider getting a life instead of wondering about other people's lives? Ever stop with the pseudo-existential depressive retro whining that is inundating post-modern pasturalism? Take fish oil and DHEA, get some sunlight and exercise on a daily basis, lose some weight, and do something you enjoy even if it isn't the hippest, most impressive and deep thing anyone has ever done before.

Answer 4

Yes. All the time, and people hate me for it, get tired of hearing it. And I can't say I blame them....thinking *is* work after all, and so is having to deal with mood disorders that won't quit and societal problems that *nobody Wants* to fix. Heaven forbid if I should maybe make *anyone* from some picket-fence suburb rethink their "one SUV and two cell phones for every child" philosophy....

I'm serious, I could and *have already* gone ballistic on any *one* of a number of the relevant complexities here. And as tired as people get of hearing me rant....I get just as tired of *doing it* and nobody *getting it* (at least nobody inside my own nation it seems).

Just check my Profile, and some of my more serious *recent* Best Answers. :) Really. It's in there.

Thanks for your time...I just wish I still had some hope for the future, never mind *MY* future here....where does motivation to do things *come from* without hope?

Answer 5

Yes, It is a blessing for it causes you to open your mind and heart, allowing God to teach you something. I have this "I don't know" ever so often, it is always followed by greatter spiritual awareness. I guess one should be seeking answers though. the first experience with this, it came to me that I had created my circumstances and i should simply get busy and work my way through the circumstances. the secont time 6 years later it came to me that "The mind is not for thinking, the mind is for receiving thought." and one with no Goals or worldly interest should simply do what is before you to do, dedicating all to the service of God .

Answer 6

unfortunatly life is what you make of it. i sympathise whith you because you said all of the things that i have said before. but i got tired of being depresed when everyone around me was happy. understand that happiness is a state of mind. dont hold happiness to everone elses standards and once you learn to let go of those standards, things improve. i know your thinking that i dont know what im talking about but i do, keep reading. my life still sucks, but its getting better. why? because i have realized that the people that have eveerything in life are the ones who have worked hard for many years. with the exception of mamas boys and daddys girls that had things handed to them on a silver plater. no i dont like them either. i have finaly started my own business and i know that with enough time and hard work i will earn the things i want. but understand that happiness is not in material possesions, its in the accomplishments that you make in life. unfortunatley it usualy takes money and or hard work to do the things that are important to you, the things that make you truly happy. take those feelings of negativity and turn them into motivation. i know you can do it because (and i say this a lot) what everything in life comes down to is, do you want it bad enough?. it sounds like you want a change in life and i think you want it bad enough. but when things get hard dont let it get you down, let it motivate you. remember what they say, and it is true, things will only get harder before they get easier. i have realized this and that is what keeps me going. staying positive will help you succeed, staying negative will make you fail. have you ever noticed that when things are going bad and you get frustrated, things keep getting worse like a snowball effect? when things get frustrating take a step back, get positive, and get going. its hard to stay positive, but if you want to meet your goals bad enough you will learn how to. good luck

Answer 7

No. And neither do most folks.

We muddle through most challenges in life.

Thank you, but I don't need any "solutions".