As a new year resolution I have decided to better myself as a person. How can I go about doing this as I have so many negative things about myself I need to change?
2006-12-23 05:51:01 · 22 answers · asked by T 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When you feel you have alot of negatives to overcome, you must focus on one thing at a time, like finding a new job: What do you need to do 1st, next, 3rd? Write it down and work on one goal at a time. When you've made significant progress start on the next item you wish to work on. Don't try to change too much at once you will get frustrated and quit. To help I've used this source that is free and could give you the tools you need to make changes. Go to : http://www.simpleology.com/indexs12.php
Good luck and you are on your way by recognizing that you need to change. As humans we have the wonderful capacity to change.
2006-12-23 08:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you see things as they really are. Of course, just a a photon can be measured as a wave or a particle, life can be measured any way we choose. I don't think there is much meaning to life apart from the meaning that we give to it personally, and there is never a right or wrong answer. If you want to be a better person then you must already have a starting point and an ultimate goal. What do you want to be better than? And how will you know when you have reached your destination if you are still surrounded by the same void of space? Maybe you are already there? Try working backwards. If you know who you don't want to be, then aim for the opposite end of the spectrum and create a new reality.
2016-05-23 02:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of focusing on the negatives why not build on the positives. This will be easier and you will also have less of a chance of not living up to your own expectations. Obviously you sense that you want to change some of your traits so being open to improving yourself is great. Why not make a list of three things that you wish were different and visual how they could be different and what it would be for you to do to make these changes. This way you can decide what your plans need to be. One thing that is easy that everyone should try is to try and say something nice to at least one stranger a day, it doesn't cost anything and it could make the world of difference to someone who is having a terrible day. Good luck you are on the right track.
2006-12-23 06:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already taken the first step by deciding you need to change. Try and treat people as you yourself would like to be treated! It works in many situations. You really will become a better person if you keep telling yourself you are a better person too.
Good luck and have a Happy New Year!
2006-12-23 08:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by willowGSD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just said yourself "I have so many negative things about myself I need to change". That's the first step, you identified what is bringing on negative aspects in your life.
To be a better person I believe you need to understand yourself. Take some time to just sit and think and get to know yourself. Realize what's important to you and strive on that. As soon as you love yourself you will start to generate more compassion and eventually it will move on to loving others. There is no magical way to just up and change so I wish you good luck!
2006-12-23 06:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love yourself. You are a great person and everyone has things that they would lilke to change about themselves. Take a good look in the mirror and see who you want to become. Write a list of what you want to change and just take it one day at a time. You have a lot of days so just take it slow and do not rush into the change. Good luck and happy new year!!! :-)
2006-12-23 06:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you want to be a better person you always need to think positive about yourself and try to always be in a good mood!
You also need to be polite to people especially the elderly
You need to compliment other people on there clothes and other stuff
You CANNOT make fun of other people
That is just MEAN!!!
If you think that your about to blow your top
Go into a room and let all your anger out
2006-12-23 06:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by sinc3r3grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good that you see your need to change and posting this question is a sign that you want to change. you truly are what you want the most. so first, you have to decide what you want the most. what's your ulitmate goal? that will set your priorities from this point forward. if your ultimate goal is to be a better friend your priority will be to call friends, plan get togethers/events, be giving, get involved in their lives, etc. It will all come to you once you decide what it is you truly want. (P.S. it really helps to write things down so you can see things more clearly)
2006-12-23 06:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by roersu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd recommend that you start by loving yourself and then ask the Almighty to create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit within you.
Ask for his forgiveness and the forgiveness from others if need be. Do positive things and bring joy to others starting with your immediate family and friends. Remember, that "love conquers all!"
Peace,
Hope
2006-12-23 05:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply in fact.
Everybody knows the difference from good and bad, do the good and NOT the bad things in life.
In time people will see that you are indeed a good and honourable person and one worth knowing.
2006-12-23 05:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋