My husband left me 2 weeks ago. We had a fight and then we made up, then he went to his mom. Everything was fine until he went to his mom's place. before he parked the car he told me that he loves me and he insisted that i say it too. we planned our day together and then he was really late and came with friends to tell me that it's over. i miss him so much and i want him back. he wouldn't answer my call and messages and finally answered my emails. he was very angry and now he wants us to b friends and we c how it goes. we chatted after that and he was really nice and the next day i felt that he was cold and maybe it's because he was going out. what can i do to get him back and realize what he's missing?
2006-12-23 05:33:44 · 15 answers · asked by perihan_ph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to grow up. You're not dating. You're married.
Why does he need his friends with him to confront you? Why did he run home to his mommy? My advice is to keep living in your home and get a marriage counselor. Go alone if you have to.
2006-12-23 05:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously Mommy has a tight hold on his thoughts. If you can get him away from her for a short time then you have a chance. You in turn will have to think of something to keep his thoughts on you instead of her. Gee, I wonder what you can offer him that she can't? Hmmmm. If you try to communicate with arguments, debates, or heated discussions, then you might want to just kiss him goodbye now, cause you will lose him.
Now for another question....Are you sure you want him back? I mean you have an argument and he leaves? Is this the kind of dysfunctional marriage that you want? It sounds as if this dude is a bit immature. Yeah, you're right, if he didn't cheat on you it's best to try to at least attempt to make it work. Good Luck!
2006-12-23 05:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds like his mommy has her claws into him. She is now controlling him and wants you out of the picture. Theres no telling what or how many lies she has told him and he believes but it looks like she is strong and hell bent on destroying your marriage. Hes acting like hes got a split personality, one for you and the other for mommy. As hard as its going to be, Id seriousily think about getting away from this guy til he grows up and leaves mommy. Sue him for divorce and everything youre legally entitle to. You can always call it off at anytime if needbe. Maybe itll be a wake up call for him, and maybe he will go to counseling but if not then youll have wasted no more time. You deserve someone who wants you. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 05:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and take the jerk to the cleaners. If his mommy has her claw's into him this **** could go on for years. He doesn't appear to care about you or he'd be at your side working out your problems.
It may take divorce papers being served to him to wake him up. I'd also arrange to have a long personal conversation with him face to face, maybe more than one, without interuptions of anykind. Tell him to leave mommy home. Also, no sex during or after these conversations don't let sex cloud the issue.
Then while all this is going on, think about what you want out of life, can this jerk provide you with what you desire in life.
If not divorce him get on with your life and be happy.
2006-12-23 06:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh my dear woman. Talk not of what he is missing. You have to Analise what made him leave in the first place. If he has a mom to go to then you have an up hill battle. He has security. That means a ton to a man. be optomistic in your plight to recover your man. Invite him over for a Christmas drink. Then seduce him. Treat him like a king. Kiss his but. When he is weak in the knees get him to re-commit himself. Do not remind him of what he is giving up. Just illustrate what he is missing. YOU!
Go for it!!
2006-12-23 05:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you dont know what love is.
love means respect, patience and kindess.
seems like he doesnt respect himself. you seem like you dont respect yourself either. how could you both respect each other.
he INSISTS that you tell him you love him, then he shows up LATE with friends and tells you it's over????
YOU accept that????? do you have low self esteem?
your moron husband plays mindgames.
the only thing he's missing is self respect for himself and others.
why do you like that type of boy? he's not even a man, he's a boy?
go find yourself a real man and stay away from the stupid childish games.
2006-12-23 05:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out to dinner, your treat and ask him to come home and to work things out. The two of you got married for a reason now lets see if you can get that back. I wish you the best of luck and happy holidays
2006-12-23 05:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he is listening to others, why beat yourself up over it and blame yourself, his mom has alot to do with it you know. he may be seeing someone else, and he is saying we will see how it goes, just in case he needs to come back to u if it don't work out. he sounds as if he is under the influence of others opinions.even if u do get him back, what is he going to find wrong with u the next time?
2006-12-23 05:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to (and get him to go too) marriage counseling. If he is willing to go then great and the marriage is worth saving if not I’m sorry but move on.
2006-12-23 05:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Scott8684 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like going out and kickin it with friends is more important to him. He very well may already be sleeping with other women. You should go out with friends, go on some dates, ect. See how that makes him and you feel about your relationship.
2006-12-23 05:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋