she had a one night stand with an older man a few years ago last night she met her new fellas parents for the first time and to her horror his dad was the older man she had slept with.
should she tell her boyfriend?
2006-12-23 05:31:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my friend who i have known for years.
2006-12-23 05:32:46 · update #1
No, it was a long time ago, I don't think it would help anyone if it was brought out in to the open - tell her to just keep quiet - its her beast of burden.
2006-12-23 05:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
yep! she should if she values the relationship at all?.
my advice we be for her to tell him in a calm manor and first state that what happened was a long time ago. Then say that she does not feel comfortable about the relationship as it is but the fact that she is telling him the truth and she wants to move on should me the motivation to be together as if they feel strongly for each other they can forgive and forget almost anything. After all it not like she did the cheating is it!.
But at the end of the day it's her choice and she has to make it, she has to live with it!.
What ever happens just be their for her as I'm sure you will be!.
good luck with what ever happens you sound like a good mate!.
Gilly.
2006-12-23 13:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Gilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow how unlucky is that!!
I personally don't think it is a good idea for her to tell her boyfriend because not only would it break up their relationship but also his mum and dads marriage so she should keep quiet.
If she can live with it and she does not want to break up with her boyfriend then she should just go on with things as if nothing has happened.
If she cant then i think she should just dump her boyfriend if it is too hard for her to live with this secret.
Please don't tell him though because i think it would cause him too much pain.
Good luck to your friend xxx
2006-12-23 14:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO SILLY Gal dnt tell him other wise he will dump u but to save ur *** run away,far away dnt ever come and dnt eve3n fink abwt looking back.and find a man not an old ugly boda(old man)
2006-12-23 13:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by sassy! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out now......this is not a secret you can keep from your boyfriend....and then if it gets serious...who knows when dad will spill the beans....otherwise tell boyfriend..but i bet he will not be pleased dad has been there first....sorry.lol
Also think of his Mum in all of this........a can of worms,best left unopened...x
2006-12-23 13:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the old man first. If they both agree to keep quite the better. I would not tell my boyfriend at this stage.
2006-12-23 15:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by nomthandeki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Defenetly not! but the old man is a dog, he cheated on his wife as well. She should probably cool it with the bf too.
2006-12-23 13:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she cheat on her man with his dad? If so then don't even bring it up. If no then if his dad trys to get freeky with her again tell him, and of course break up with his ***....By the way if his dad was married then she should tell his mom to, because husbands that cheat, deserve to get nailed for cheating
2006-12-23 13:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No Way! That is only going to cause the new boyfriend to be unconfortable when she is around his dad. As long as nothing happens again, nothing needs to be said.
2006-12-23 13:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lier
2006-12-23 13:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by kosum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋