I am thirteen and have been in depression for like 2 years now. It all started with my sister, she mentally unstable, she can't understand things, she only cares about herself. She is so fake, she puts on acts in front of people and tells them lies so they'll like her. My grandparents say that she is a wounded bird and we need to help her, she tricks them and its sickening. People in my life say aww she is so nice. Well, they don't know the real Kaitlin. She even started e-mailing me best friend behind my back, my friend tells me your sister is so sweet. Yeah right! She is mean, she hits me and bites and pinches me, she's 15! She thinks she is so much better then everyone else and tells them that! When we were in elementry school I walked her to class everyday because she was scared, she loves me deep deep deep down and I know that but she doesn't show it and tells me she hates me. I care about her and love her and I don't know why. I feel so much hatred towards her though.
2006-12-23 05:24:22 · 6 answers · asked by Kayley W 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I tried to tell my best friend, she didn't believe me. My grandparents didn't come to my Birthday. They made sure they came to Kaitlins. No one can grasp how she is. My parents don't even understand how I feel and they hear and see everything. My parents say I need to let it go. It's continous it builds up. And everone sees how miserable I am. She's ruining my life. My youth leader and other family members have gone to my parents and asked "What's wrong with Kayley?" it's so frustrating trying to explain to people but them not understanding and judgeing you. She is a witch, but I love her and hate that I love her. If anything were ever to happen her I would have a very very hard time. I would die to help her, yet she wouldn't care if I died. She would pretend to though. Any advice on how to get over this?
2006-12-23 05:30:03 · update #1
I'm sure your telling the truth. I've seen this quite often. Right now, you can't do anything about this, and that's okay.
There is a saying that is nice to know about people like this: "Everything comes out in the wash."
Means: you don't have to do anything except make some popcorn and watch the show (your sister). Life always has the truth come out and one way or another!
2006-12-23 08:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by dearreal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to say that stuff like this will never stop even when you enter the work force you can be the best worker on the face of the earth and somebody who does only what they need to get buy will get all of the praise .
It's called selling your self man it drive me nut's and you also but you will have to learn to deal with it or join them .
I do belive your sister loves you deep down . Her hitting and biting you just show she is spoiled rotten . How did she get this way by selling her self as a sweet heart since your 13 i used the selling her self insted of what older folks call this kind of actions .
P.S the more you try to show people her real side the worse things will get . Folks will think you just have it in for her .
So let things run it's course time will show her true colors when people start asking her to help folks like her tend to stop being so nice .
By any means don't let her actions change you live life the best you can and in the long run you will be the one people turn to and think man i never knew she was so cool
2006-12-23 13:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your sister is hurting you physically you can report the abuse to a school counselor. They are obligated to begin action on your behalf.
Being treated wrongly by your sister and not being heard by family members about the treatment you are living with is in its self another form of abuse.
Aside from all of that, you have choices. You have the right to fair treatment, you have a right to protection from abuse, and you have a right to take action to stop the abuse. You are equally as important as your sister but it sounds as though no one is going to take your side except yourself. So do it.
It's a difficult lesson to learn even when you are an adult...but, the only person who is going to watch out for you ultimately, throughout your whole life is YOU. Stop living in the problem and begin to enact a solution. Contact someone who will listen and support you through this difficult time. I suggest you use the people available to you at your school, such as a school counselor or a teacher you feel comfortable talking with. Let them point you in the right direction.
2006-12-23 14:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to get to a point where you don't care anymore. I know you love your sister and I'm sure she loves you to. But if your sister is fake to people, that is her business you can't let it get to you like that. Focus on yourself and building non toxic relationships with other people. She may change but then again she may not. All you can do is love her, tell her about herself and if she doesn't want to change, love her from a distance. You know how close you should get to your sister before she will burn you. You cannot change people they have to chose to change.
2006-12-23 13:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being treated badly by someone who should really love you. You keep loving her and pray to the Lord and ask Him to help your sister.
Overwhelm your sister with kindness. Walk away when she is ugly toward you. Pray constantly for her. God will intervene and change her heart.
2006-12-23 13:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop the hatred
2006-12-23 13:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by middle way 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋