marriage: I fear that my husband will get tired of seeing me everyday and maybe want a new change. I love my husband soo much and I know that he loves me. He is 5 years younger than I am. He has been in love with me since he was 18. He is 21 now. Will his feelings for me change as he gets older?
2006-12-23 05:07:53 · 20 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for 2 1/2 years and have been married for 1 1/2 months. Things are great. But some ppl tell me that since he is young...
2006-12-23 05:09:24 · update #1
Don't listen to other people, listen to your heart, if things are doing great, then don't worry about it. Remember that ole saying, "if it aint broke, don't mess with it". Age is not to much a factor, so listen to yourself and no one else, and tell those people, to mind their own business, and worry about what is going on in their own backyard.
2006-12-23 05:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi DDee,
Try not to let those others tell you those "Stereotype" comments spoken! These people can't judge your Husband, they say stuff before they know any facts.
The thing is, you know your Husband better than anybody, and ONLY you can make judgements.
Here's 1 thing, my first Ex was a "skirt-chaser" and I knew it before we got married, and that's what I got and look what happened to us! I always thought people can change others, and now finding out it doesn't work that way! My EX stayed the same------- "rolling eye Disease", guess you could say, and I learned. This is what I mean, when you know a man long enough, you find out his Character and when you say how much in love you are, just because your Husband is a few years younger doesn't mean a thing! It's the person who counts, not their age! As I said, anything else is a stereotype out of negative people's mouths!
Just go with your "Gut" and stay there!
Blessings in your future!
2006-12-23 05:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey u raised a very interesting and pertinent question. Yes you will often get to hear that love between husband and wife decreases as the marriage gets older. BUT IT IS FAR FROM THE TRUTH. what might decrease and does decrease is the lust. as for love, it matures with time, especially when both partners love each other and are working to make it stronger.
Has no one told you that the feeling of love between husband and wife and the desire to be together and the need they feel for each other is the strongest in the older age? At that time only u come to know how much ur partner loves u. In the youth its more of lust and lesser of love. of course we all consider the feeling of lust as that of love and to some extent its not wrong too. But deeper love comes with time, especially when the kids have grown up and gone their own ways and only the old couple are together again like intheir youth. So dont worry about the changing faces of love/lust. they will always be there and enjoy each phase of it. May God bless the two of u with everlasting love.
2006-12-23 05:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sumit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what other people tell you. Especially so early in a marriage, it's perfectly normal to get scared. Talk to your husband about it. He married you for a reason.
I have been married for 4 1/2 months and I'm 20. My husband is 21.
Age has nothing to do with it, it's the level of maturity and the desire to settle down, that really matters.
2006-12-23 05:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like life itself, none of us knows exactly when it will be over, live for today as wecant do anything about yesterday and tomorrow will take care of itself. Youre married only 1 1/2 months and youre already worrying about this. Kinda late isnt it, anyhow? As long as you two are deeply in love, age doesnt matter and is really no one elses business and if everyone was such an expert in inter personal relationships, then we wouldnt have such a high divorce rate. I deal with hundreds of couples yearly and very very few with marital problems come to me for help concerning age differences. Its only human nature that people change but if he truly really loves you his love will only grow stronger as time goes on, but there are no guarantees in life that everything will last forever so cherish the time together and quit worrying about tomorrow, next week of next year. Congrats and good luck on your new marriage and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 05:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a man that married a women 20 years older than himself. They are in love, always have been, and are still married 30 years later. My man is 7 years younger than me and he has never tired of me. He loves me and that was 32 years ago.
Don't look for trouble when there is none. You will be just fine.
2006-12-23 05:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 21years.we started out as best buddies in high school and then it went from there.Age shouldnt matter.We have had our times of trouble but if you truly love someone you will work it out..Our marriage is getting stronger everyday and i will never love anyone like i do him
2006-12-23 05:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by WITCHY WOMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste the good time you are having now, worrying about what will happen later... if it happens, there is nothing you can do about it anyway right?
So just enjoy your marriage and your life... He will also notice if you are always worrying about that kind of stuff and harping and asking him questions like, " will you love me if I get fat" Dont ask him that stuff. Just be happy with your life now, and live it well... whose to say what will happen tomorrow?
2006-12-23 05:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will always have something to say. But it's what you do in your marriage that matters. Some of my friends find that when God is your common denominator so to speak, the marriage is stronger. So basically, if you live to please God, all the rest will fall into place easier.
2006-12-23 05:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife when I was 16 or 17 twenty something years later we are still together love is eternal
2006-12-23 05:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋