what do i do?

Question

ok, my mom is wanting me to go to a ballet school so i can learn it but i want to go to an acting school. she says i have more of a chance to get something if i go to ballet school. but i hate ballet it has always seemed so boring to me. i love acting and singing though. my mom said she would probably more than likely not pay for acting school if that is what i chose. i know if i take ballet then i will hate it and never be amused by it. how do i tell my mom that i hate ballet and when i do tell her how do i get her to let me go to acting school?

Answer 1

As a father and former musician, can I tell you something?

Your mom may be doing you a favor. Ballet is MUCH more difficult than acting or singing. If you can do each of them well, you are what is known in the business as a "triple threat". Someone who can dance, sing, and act is more of an asset than just a singer and actor. Let's face it, ANYONE can sing and act. Not everyone can dance.

Use this experience that your mom is offering you and learn from it. Not just the dance, itself, but the freindships you will have, the struggles you will have in learning and practicing and the performance time this is going to give you on stage.

I'm serious when I say that this could be the best worst experience in you life.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 2

Ballet is a foundation class for any other type of dance you may want to take in the future. It is also where you will learn about self discipline a requirement for working adults that want to actually make something of themselves. And I would say that if you continued on to pointe with the ballet then your mother would probably be willing to fork out the cash for singing or acting classes. That is if the money is available. A performing arts school would be a wonderful option if your mom is willing to do something that off-beat. That's not all that easy for parents to do.

My mom forced me to take piano for 12 years. Although I don't have any talent for it there isn't a musical score written that I can't read.

Answer 3

I understand your predicament and yes the others are right tell her what you jus wrote. But remember acting includes dance, so maybe you two could compromise by taking acting/stage and a dance class but maybe not ballet. What about jazz? You will need to know all kinds of moves and steps for acting so you could use that as an "IN" to the acting. One ballet class for one acting class then move onto jazz, tap, hip-hop, belly, whatever..keep the combo going. But do talk it over with her and don't be a baby and pout about it, show her you are talking from the grown up you and that this is no just a whim.

Answer 4

Honey, I'm not sure how old you are but I think, depending on the child's maturity level, that at age 14-16 things like this should be talked out between mother and daughter who is now and should act like a young lady. Some type of compromise needs to be established - possibly include a third party in the conversation as a mediator.
My daughter at 16 wanted to take French in school... yes, against what I wanted for her, she was adamant about taking French. She is now 22 and was upset with me for not making her take Spanish as for some reason being bi-lingual is a + in the world of work.
I let her take French because for 2-3 weeks we were arguing back and forth.
She has now forgotten her French and has no time to take Spanish.
Sometimes, as much as we hate it, we don't relize it but our parents love us and want the best for us. I'm sure there is a reason why your mother wants ballet for you. Couldn't you take a part-time course of singing and acting as well?
All three would look great in a portfolio.
Good Luck honey, remember you only have one mom !!

Answer 5

A good compromise might be to take jazz dance classes. They are more often used in theatre (especially musical theater); you get skills for any stage acting you want to do, and you take dance classes like your mom wants.

Still, ballet is a great base from which to build dancing technique. If you want to do musical theater at all, ballet might not be a bad place to start, especially if you're young (say, 15 or younger) as you are more flexible. More maybe take some ballet and then transition into more theatre oriented dance?

Good luck.

Answer 6

first off tell your mom what you just wrote. 2nd off have you ever tried ballet ( i love ballet) it looks boring maybe on the t.v or on the stage but when you actually do it , it is so much more interesting. ALso, why doesn't your mom send you to a performing arts school. That way you can do both, make your mom happy and you. Also (not to be rude) but your mom shouldn't make the decisions for you (your parents are guides and your life support), but really ask for a performing arts school.

HOPE THIS HELPS!!

Answer 7

Does your mom realize how much you dislike ballet. You should sit down and tell her that you do not like it. Try to come to an agreement. You may have to take some ballet classes but maybe she will let you take some acting ones also.

Answer 8

Follow your heart. Always. You may face many obstacles, and you may not have the support you may have had if you followed someone else's dream for you, but that is what it is: someone else's dream. You have to do what drives you. If you do something you find boring then you will never excel as you would have in a craft you truly love.

Answer 9

She is making you feel guilty. Just because she wants to do it it doesn't mean you should. Go with what you love to do.

Answer 10

tell her what you just wrote.