Any tips on how to make this year`s Christmas geart for my 2 kids 9 and 7, mam walked out on them with a bloke 2 weeks ago and never been in touch and got nothing from her for the kids for crimbo and I want them to be happy, deep down they missing they mum any ideas thanks
2006-12-23 04:20:31 · 12 answers · asked by Harry S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
poor little buggers thats not right!
Lots of games and make it a theme for them, hide there presents and do a treasure hunt!
Lots of love and hugs for them
2006-12-23 04:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by untanuta 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, I am so sorry to hear about your wife leaving you and the kids. Give them their Christmas morning with the tree lit and all the glorious presents wrapped up under the tree. Make a great breakfast; pancakes, eggs, bacon, toast, french toast or what ever your children and you like. Then have some family time. Put on music, get ready to go to the family's dinner. Try to make it as normal as possible. Don't give them too much material things, give them lots of love. I think there will be some crying though, and you all should get together and hug each other hard. (I'm almost in tears right now thinking about your situation). Have dinner and then give each kid one special present from your heart.
I am so sorry to hear about this, honestly. But I wish you a joyous holiday!!!
2006-12-23 04:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with SisterGirl - try to be as positive as you can but without being fake, your children will know you well enough to see right through it. I think she is also right about not saying anything about their mother.
Though hopefully, she might surprise you by contacting you on Christmas Day to visit the children or at least talk to them on the phone - if she does, I really think you should let her, even if your instinct is to say no, she is their mother after all.
Children are amazing, they are very resilient. At the age of 9, your oldest is probably thinking the exact same as you, worrying about how to make you happy that day. Just try your best to make it a family day, even if a bit of the family is no longer there. I hope you all have a great Christmas, best wishes to you all.
2006-12-23 04:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's rough, all around. Get with your family if possible. Have friends over, if possible with other kids. Keep them active and give them opportunities to do things during not just Christmas but during the next couple of months for sure. It doesn't just help them it's bound to be good for you too.
2006-12-23 04:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mark T 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give them love and affection, that is more important than anything money can buy. Let them know you are there for them and don't say negative things about her, even though it is hard, but if you do, it will come right back at you in a negative way. They are really hurting too and they need at least one stable parent, be that one for them. You won't regret it.
2006-12-23 04:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by 1fourthemoney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, hard one, I'm sorry your all having such a rubbish time of it at moment. HHmm try and make it the same as normal, obviously it wont be but try and have fun, dont draw loads of attention to the fact she's not there but if they want to talk about it/her/the sitituation then encourage that. Maybe if you have family/friends near by, you could try to have a xmas that included them all, try and make it as jolly as possible
have fun and good luck x
2006-12-23 04:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by keeley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, whether happy or sad. The kids will know if you are faking it. Take your cue from them: if they ask, answer them at an age-appropriate level without, without criticizing their Mom. They have enough heartache right now without being in the middle of a love-fight. They probably won't be happy but fake it till you make it.
2006-12-23 04:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If that's the kind of "mum" she is, they're better off without her. Let them have no doubt that you love them with all your heart. We all have to suffer through some things in our lives. Knowing, without a doubt, that someone loves us can make all the difference in the world.
2006-12-23 04:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by convoiceofreason 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear you in this situation. Its bad enough when fathers leave their kids like that..but mothers?? its disgraceful.
Just be there for them, let them know theyre not going to lose you too and you have enough love for more than 2 parents
blessed be xx
2006-12-23 04:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by serephina 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
god, the poor kids, that sucks that she would do that to them and you right before Christmas. why couldn't she wait a week or so.
just be there for them, tell them that you will not leave them and you will be there for them if they ever need you for anything.
lots of love and open honest talk if they have questions. best of luck to you and the kids.
2006-12-23 04:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by picture 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give them lots of love and attention,Christmas isnt all about BIG pressies.....all they need to know is that you love them and will always be there for them.
Have a happy Christmas...all of you x
2006-12-23 05:01:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋