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2006-12-23 04:17:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
i've lost my best friend for 17 years because she was one sided and always talked about her child. she never asked me about my life or my child. i always supported her and I was listened. When I told her several times about her behavior, she twist it around making it like my fault. she said she didn't want to be in a toxic friendship (LOL). i knew her since elementary.
2006-12-23 04:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Pedro Xavier Ramirez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I am actually thinking of calling a friend of mine. We are childhood friends, Then, she moved away for college, and we lost touch. By the time she came back, i left because I got a job in another city.
We are both in the same city, but since I came back 4 months ago, we have spoken only once, on the phone.
I really miss her and I wish I could pick up the phone and call her. But, I am so scared. The thing is, we both have changed a lot from what we used to be as kids and I am afraid..... I am not sure of what.
2006-12-23 12:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it did happen. It was a pretty bad break up between my friend of 12 years and myself. I think most of the fault was on my part, but at the time, i was too stubborn and selfish to see it.
Anyway, I did contact her again after a couple of years. She responded, but sadly, it was never thea same after our intitial break. I guess there had been other issues within the friendship that she never disclosed with me, and they all just came together to make her feel that she did not want to continue being my friend.
It's been years now since we spoke. I still send her an email every now and then. I never expect a response, and she never does. At least I know that she knows I will always love and care for her. Oh, and she knows I am deeply sorry too since I did make sure she knew that.
There is a famous saying "You can never go home again". In this case, it stands true.
2006-12-23 12:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have had to let some 'best' friends go (ones I thought were 'best') No, once I have let someone go, they are gone, unless the Universe delivers us back in some way...that would mean we have done the growing work within, and have learnt acceptance of ones differences and can be in allowance of each other.
If you want to approach them, and talk but are afraid, then there are 'issues' yet to be confronted within your self. You have not let go. Or maybe intuitively you know the relationship is not really over, completely.
If it was a terrible misunderstanding and you are feeling a 'grave' loss, then I would send them a card openly explaining self. Do not pressure them to contact you, just let them know they are alway in your heart.
2006-12-23 12:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, and it is sad too. I was friends with a girl for 22 years. Her family life had always been awful. As an adult, she continued to struggle in personal relationships with friends and significant others. I helped her out many times, time on the phone, groceries, lifts, ect. She needed to be in counseling seriously. One time when she was at her most desperate, I had her come down and stay with me,,use our extra car, fixed up a sleeping area for her, free access to the fridge, ect, ect....She ended up flipping out on me..Cursing, complaining, being utterly evil!!! When I called her on it..(she always had "advice" for me, but if I were to say something she particularly didn't want to hear,,she would get nasty). She stormed out of here and left horrible screaming messages on my phone..saying don't ever call me, don't send me any letters, ever! I still can't believe it. I have respected those wishes, however, and hope to God she is okay, and at peace with herself..hopefully on some meds and in counseling. Thats' my story...and I am kind of afraid of her because she is so tempermental. Good luck.
2006-12-23 12:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Licorice's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost touch with my best friend from moving having kids and other things but i picked up the phone and we started talking as if we never stopped
2006-12-23 12:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Allibus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it's happened, but I decided it was about time to do something about it and just went for it. I'd lost them once as a friend and the worse thing that could happen is that they wouldn't want to know, but they did luckily.
2006-12-23 12:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have done this...with more than one person...and with one specific person several times. Some relationships are just like that.
I had more advice, but I realized now this was filed as a poll, not a relationship advice question. :)
2006-12-23 12:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, but if that's you, reach out at this time of year and call them to see how they are doing. A lot of times people don't, thinking the other one is still mad but you are both waiting for a reconnection.
2006-12-23 12:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..back in high school I did..and now I talk to her sometimes, but it is always superficial and awkward. I would like it if she and I were friends again, though.
2006-12-23 12:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by Princess Purple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋