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2006-12-23 04:08:00 · 13 answers · asked by logie ogie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Sorry dude, i think you are screwed for life.
Unless you can get a judge to re-evaluate the previous decision.
2006-12-23 04:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the terms of your divorce. Pule out those papers and read them.
Every state has different laws on this. My advice, call your local court house and they will give you some facts. File a pettion. If there are no children involved and you can prove that she is self supporting. She makes her own money and any assistance from you is not needed. However, if kids are involved, you will probably be denied because the spousal support is part of helping raise the kids.
Alimony or spousal supprt is designed to provide the lower-income spouse with money for living expenses over and above the money provided by child support. Alimony is different from child support. Where child support is a simple mathematical calculation using guidelines published by your state, alimony is very much in the discretion of the JUDGE.
There are several factors a judge considers when deciding whether to grant alimony. These differ from state to state, of course, but they usually involve things like the parties' relative ability to earn money, both now and in the future; their respective age and health; the length of the marriage; the kind of property involved, and the conduct of the parties. In general, about the only time a judge will award alimony in most states is where one spouse has been economically dependent on the other spouse for most of a lengthy marriage.
2006-12-23 04:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by cajun24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spousal support is normally not to range longer then the time lost.
So if you were married for 5 years, 5 years from the first payment is how long it normally ranges.
It sucks if you were married for 20 or 40 years, but if it was only a year or something your in luck.
Have your lawyer plead the court for dismissal of the case. If naything, mediate with your ex-wife to lower it, or you will go to court and have it dismissed fully, which will certainly work since 10 years must be the expiration on such a decision. (if you still have the same lawyer, fire the ******* and get a new one, a time arrangment should have been included in the first draft)
2006-12-23 04:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lamar - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably in your divorce decree..dust if off and look at it.
I only had to pay "alimony" or spousal support for 4 years,and child support till my children reached the age of 21.
..I can say "only" now ..but it was a long time 12 years of paying and now it is done for me.
I would get a lawyer and amend the decree if you think it is unfair,chances are that her financial situation has changed for the better and you don't have to pay anymore.
She is probably laughing at you and making fun of you in front of her friends and family because you never took her to court to have the divorce decree amended..it is called "change of circumstances"..it is a legal term also.
When my income changed for a 6 month period of time because I hurt my back and made less money,no overtime,I filed an amendment by myself with no lawyer,took her back to court and won! ..
It was only fair.
Good luck !
by the way now that I think about it,you should not have to pay spousal support longer than you were married..You are not her daddy.
2006-12-23 04:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go back to court and find out. They are the ones who dictate these things. If it's purely spousal support I can see your point, however if it's child support then obviously until the kids are 18 or done school.
2006-12-23 04:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you were married,but ten years is a long time. It used to be set at 1 year of support for every 4 years of marriage. You really need to go back to court!
2006-12-23 04:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by lilkismet73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spousal support? Men still have to pay that? WHY? In this day and age why on earth should you have to pay anything to support an ex wife? Women are capable of working the same as men. You shouldnt have had to paid a damn dime.
No, im not speaking of child support, im speaking of spouse support.
2006-12-23 04:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well support is for her to maintain a lifestyle. if she remarried then you dont have to pay but i would go back to court as that is the only real way to get it reversed. yes 10 years is a long time and if the reason she got it is no longer valid then you have to go back to get the decree changed. i would talk to a lawyer before you do anything and then talk to her. then you know what you can and cannot do and if you talk to her you at least have a chance to just let it go nicely
2006-12-23 04:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely check with a lawyer - if you can't afford one (they're costly) check with legal aid. Spousal support is usually set with "conditions" i.e., the spouse getting support remarries, income increases, time limt, etc... Look at your divorce papers and see if there is any time limit or set conditions.
2006-12-23 04:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by J m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where i come from, enough is, when child turns 18. or if still in school, ie;collage, then it will be untill 24 yr. old or out of school, which ever comes 1st. if you owe back pay, then you have to pay that too. if you are in hardship, and can prove it, then take it to court, get a hearing set up, and judge could lower payments.
2006-12-23 04:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be in California. The only way to get out of allimony is if she remarries. My husband had to pay money to his ex wife then we got lucky and she got remarried. Now even if she gets a divorce he never has to pay her again. Thats California for you a community property state.
2006-12-23 04:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋