My boyfreind dumped me around 2 months ago and I am still sad about it. He wasn't going to until I kinda forced him and was like what is wrong. It toke him forever to do it. I feel that he was the problem not me. He did not even wanna take me out to eat. He still hasn't talked to me since then and at the time acted like he would. I just feel still confused cause how can you love someone so much and then they just push you off when they are the one you can't trust. It is kinda hard now since it is christmas too.
2006-12-23 04:01:28 · 10 answers · asked by Kelsey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like this relationship ended before you were ready. well, what's happened has happened, and the best thing for you to do now is to move on with your life and prove that you can be happy without him. regardless of why he left you, (reasons might include you guys having very different personalities; he didn't like some of the ways you handled the relationship but was reserved about his frustrations) well, whatever the reason, you know that he doesn't want to be with you anymore (since he hasn't made the effort to call you since then) and you probably know that you can't force someone to be with you and expect him to be happy. That would only make things worse. My suggestion is to look forward, not back.
Don't dwell on things that you can't change anymore. If he has taken you out of his life, then why would you keep him in yours? Otherwise the resentment and confusion is just gonna grow into a time bomb, ticking away at your last nerve until you finally explode. I know, that's a hackneyed metaphor, but it works. Just remember that a lot of the things you may feel or think are very hard to convert to words, and are even harder to say to the other person, especially if you don't want to hurt them. This may be the reason why he acted like he would call you but never did.
Anyway, if he's already gotten over you, then don't torment yourself by drumming the hate into your heart again and again. Share your feelings with someone or something (a journal, etc.) and then let it go. Take care of yourself and remember all the good things about you. Stop thinking about all the things he did wrong and think about all the things that make you a wonderful person. If you want to get back your self-confidence or quell the boredom, keep yourself busy, hang out with friends, or meet some new guyfriends. I understand that it takes time for sadness to go away, but these are the methods that helped me. But staying angry and even getting desperate are sure showstoppers while you're on your path of getting over the heartbreak. Hope this helps! Best of luck to you!
2006-12-23 04:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by fateful_gravitation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one thing numbs pain, and that's joy. It's easy to say just find someone else that makes you happy, but it's a lot harder to do. I'm sure you have friends and start doing things with them that you were doing before this person came around. Everybody goes through this usually many times. Put up a brick wall, and move on.
2006-12-23 04:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzeled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the thing you can do this christmas is to spend time with your family. in the mean time forget about your problem since in a couple of days it would be 2007, just have a new year resolution.. forget the guy start a new life and start collecting boys!
2006-12-23 04:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by young_biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumped is a harsh word i think ! Go out and meet new people and find someone else . Find new friends and try to take your mind off him .Tell yourself you deserve better than him !
2006-12-23 04:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an open mind and try dating other guys. It might sound cheesy but if you go to one of those 5 minute dating places ( you don't have to see the guys again) you might be able to get your mind off him.
2006-12-23 04:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL HONEY IT HAPPEN TO ME.I WAS MARRIED WITH MY FIRST BOYFRIEND AS ONLY 17 YEARS OLD.WE BEEN SEPARATE NOW FOR 3YEARS AND WE WERE MARRIED FOR 33 YEARS BEFORE ARE SEPARATION,BUT ONE THING IS WE BOTH DECIDED TOGETHER.I FIRSTS I TOT THAT I WAS GO TO DIE BECAUSE I THINK ITS HARD FOR USE WOMEN.HE`S OKAY BECAUSE HE HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND THERE BOTH HAPPY AND AM HAPPY FOR THEM TO.ME WELL DIN`T GET ANY ONE WHET AND I AM NOT WANT TO LOOK FOR A MAN WYETH.I HAVE GIVEN THE SEPARATION TO GOD AND HE WILL HELP ME TO GET SOME OR NOT WELL ILL STAY LIKE THAT.AND WE HAVE 2 BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER TO GET TH ER AND 5 GRAND-CHILDREN.I STARTED TO PLAY WITH THE COMPUTER TO CHANGE,MY MIND,AND DOING CRAFTS.RELEASING,IN JOY THE WORLD AND MY DAUGHTERS,GRAND CHILDREN'S AND I HAVE 2NICE DOGS THAT STAID WITH ME.AND NOW I AM OKAY.I HOPE THAT I HELP YOU A LITTLE BIT.
2006-12-23 04:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by cilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take his cue and move on. He does not care. Someday, you will meet someone meant for you. Turn yourself into a woman that men would care for by developing yourself and being good.
2006-12-23 04:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend and if the new boyfriend is great you might think why did you ever waist your time on him.
2006-12-23 04:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by giana g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens.. its very difficult to get over it.. ull never really forget this incident.. but get urslef involved in other activities, make new frnds.. gradually u'll find someome else n get over it.. believe me i went thru the same thing..
2006-12-23 04:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋