so he moved out and I filed for divorce last week becuase he has turned into someone else. he is NOT with the new girl but i just can't trust him...so how can a grown man just leave his wife and baby. is he just freaking out. is this normal?? Do most men run away or have crisis' when to much stress is put on them?
tell me what you think!
2006-12-23 03:53:43 · 13 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, but your problem is
what will you do?
how will you live?
how will you take care of the baby?
how will you get child support?
how will you work?
you need to get busy on solving these problems
so your baby can live a good life.
stop thinking so much about him...
figure out how to manage your life now.
2006-12-23 03:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men do get scared and move out but the only way to know that is by talking to him. Talk to him and find outs what wrong. Maybe he got scared but it's still wierd becasue he is married to you and he should have known that you most of the time have children with the person you love and marry to. So the best way to find out is by talking don't file for a divorce until you have a good reason to like if he found somone else or he just doesn't want to live with you. I hope there is a prfectly good reason for his actions. Just ask him.
2006-12-23 04:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by dm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy brings out the worst in couples, probably almost as bad as alcohol. The reason is that people have to come to terms with their inner child and the wrongs they suffered in childhood. Pushing things now will change nothing. Now is not the time to worry about financial responsibility, parenting, etc.
You will have to resolve this trust issue to put your family back together. That wil take a lot of calm talking, maybe even counciling. First let it cool off, sometimes things just get too emotional to work with. Focus on being ready in your home and in your heart to be a mom.
2006-12-23 04:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by xillith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is immature, and not ready to be a father or a husband. You need to find his social security number (for child support purposes), file for divorce on the grounds of abandonment, go into mediation with your soon-to-be ex, and get counseling for yourself. This is a VERY stressful time for you, but realize that in the long run, you will be okay. Your baby will be okay. You are stronger than this situation, and hold your head up! If you don't have a degree, now is the time to get one. If you don't have any credit in your name, get it. That is important in the long run. Remember: You are stronger than this situation. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-23 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i'm attempting to place myself into your shoes. If i in my view did no longer have everywhere to pass and that i did no longer have a job to assist myself (or a minimum of a occupation to pass back to after the toddler replaced into born) i could in all probability wait till after the youngster is born and that i've got recovered from childbirth before confronting him. He does could desire to be confronted whether he's no longer having an certainly affair, he should be there for you extra beneficial than something in this time. After confronting him, i could seek for counseling.
2016-10-05 22:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proceed with the divorce. You have a baby on the way that needs you. Come to your closure....he's a coward and is a little boy in a man's body.
2006-12-23 04:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has something to do within himself, unable to work out problems, just not mature enough and doesn't care enough to do what is right in spite of how he feels. when they run away when there is a crisis it doesn't say too much about their character.
2006-12-23 04:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz..try n tlk to him..n if dat doesnt workout thn involve some close elderly person in da matter...just dont directly file da divorce..it may worsen yur relationship..evn more!!
he might just be tooo stressed hence would hav behavd unusually..but dnt just think of ending-up relation lyk dat..try different ways..to work it out..!!!! ignore da past mistakes dat he might hav made..n try building up..yr relationship again..wid a new begining.!!! evn if he is nt ready 4 dat..thn tell him to atleast think of da child..who is goin to arrive soon..n has done no harm to him..Y he(child's dad) is trying to harm his own blood?! question him..Y is he doing so..Y is he least bothered about his own blood? try n find out da reason..n resolve it!!!!
goodluck..!!!
2006-12-23 04:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by tan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for you and you unborn child
my dad left my mom when i was 12 because he was mad at my mom and he had problems
your husband may not feel ready to be a farther or just feels like he cant be the farther he wants to be
or something else is bugging him you should ask
2006-12-23 04:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by godschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say none of us know you or him so we can not say, you need some counseling to get through this, i am sorry some men are complete morons and undependable some are not. good luck to you in the future.
2006-12-23 04:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋