He is in his second marriage currently having divorced his first wife 6yrs ago.His current wife is on vaction in her home country as I got to discover.I thought he was free but now what shocks me the most is that this man has not even sent me a christams card!I had started getting fond of him but I feel so heart broken!
2006-12-23 03:52:32 · 8 answers · asked by mamji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone, he's taken! If you continue to see this man you're setting yourself up for even worse heartache. Can't you see he's just using you?
2006-12-23 03:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you never really understood what you were to him. He is married.....for the second time......and clearly likes to mess around. You are the mess around part.
When you go with a married man you are asking for this. He may very well have feelings for you but they are way down the list on his priorities. And having a lover on the side keeps a man really busy trying to make sure that lover and his wife never meet.
Remember this: When you date or have and affair with a married man consider it as a passing thing and you will never get hurt.
You can believe he learned a bit from the loss of his first marriage. Not much but a little. What he learned was to never leave any trace of that lover to come back to haunt him.
So find a man that can be yours, and yours alone. If you don't want marriage then state so right up front. In the end honesty will always be far easier to handle and will make you much happier.
2006-12-23 04:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something very wrong here. You discovered that he is married and the thing that shocks you most is he never sent a Christmas card?
He can't do that. He can't have anyone see his return address, or even see him mail a card in case they tell his wife.
Since you are the "other woman" you may need to learn a few things:
1) He will never be able to call you in the evenings when he is home with his wife. He will call from work or use his cell phone.
2) He will not be able to see you on week ends or Holidays. That time he has reserved to spend with his wife/family.
3) He will not be able to buy you gifts in case someone sees him and mentions it to his wife.
4) He will have to cancel times to see you if the wife decides to do something at the last minute.
5) When he is with you he will constantly watch the clock. He will need a good alibi for the time he is gone from his job and his home.
2006-12-23 03:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu shouldn't see him, he does have a current wife. No offense but who are you playing he obiously has more feelings for his wife since he is still staying with her. He may be just uing you while his wife is out of town. You can find somone better. How would you feel if your man was unfaithful to you, thats exactly how his wife is going to feel about you if she finds out. He may not have the same feelings about you. find someone else.
2006-12-23 03:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by dm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should send him one. If you have then write him and tell him how you feel. If you just leave him alone, he might think that you are some sort of snob that only writes when written to, or only gives when given to. Nobody likes that kind of person.
2006-12-23 03:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by pincdragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married, why would you even want to be with him. Leave him alone. Do you think he cheated on his first wife? WIll he cheat on you too?
2006-12-23 03:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by 1fourthemoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it...he is a married man....
2006-12-23 03:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you mess with a married man? you home wrecker
2006-12-23 03:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by maggie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋