Why does my wife get upset when I look at porn when she's not the least bit interested in the bedroom? I have contributed to the problem with performance issues, but how do we solve these problems if she's not interested in helping solve the problem? Ladies, what's your take on this situation?
I'm not looking for a discussion of whether porn is moral or not, so if that's your angle please don't bother to answer.
2006-12-23 03:50:52 · 4 answers · asked by Thunderman9 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Porn can be very intimidating to a woman. She may feel as though you want her to look and perform like the women in the porn film. She is not an actress, she is a wife. I am sure that when she makes love to you that you like to know that she is sincere and not just acting? If you spent as much time on perfecting your real love life as you do watching porn, most likely you would rather be in the bedroom doing it for real. Make the sex life between you and your wife the best it can be and then if you want to watch porn once in a while, maybe you can do it together. My husband and I do and we have fun watching it and laughing at some of it. It makes for an interesting evening. Your wife just feels that she is in competition with the porn. Go to www.suejohensen.com. This is not a porn site but rather a site to help teach you how to have a better sex life.
2006-12-23 04:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she thinks Porn is Dirty, and has the notion that you want her perform the way THEY do in those HORRID scenes! Ever think of that?
Talk to your Wife man! Discuss with her how beautiful lovemaking IS, and it isn't what is portrayed in that TRASH on tv. She just has a bad reaction to that FILTH, so let her know that in YOUR bedroom, it's alot different and natural!
2006-12-23 14:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh she prolly isnt interested because she feels like youd rather look at pron than her and shes so disgusted withyou for that.
give up the porn for a bit, appreciate the REAL woman standing infront of you instead of women you will never ever have a chance to be with (its nice to fantasize though)
And give her some time, hell for all you know your wife may come around.
2006-12-23 13:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try seducing her or something different!! I personally like porn and find cybering very fulfilling too!!!
2006-12-23 13:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋