I just started working at a new job about 5 weeks ago. My boss has gone on vacation for the next two weeks so I am in charge. But, I am new and still learning the ropes.
The owner of the company is mean and nasty. He routinely yells at people openly in the hallway and is very impatient and abrupt. I have not had to deal with this yet because he deals directly with my boss.
I will probably have to interface with him directly for the next two weeks while my boss is gone. I don't know how to react if he yells at me. He does it with everyone so I know not to take it personally, but its not fun to be yelled at when you are trying to do your job.
I know that I will be leaving this job soon - probably after my boss returns from vacation, but in the meantime need to deal with the stress while I am working there.
Has anyone ever dealt with an rude boss?
2006-12-23 03:47:03 · 10 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
The best way to deal with someone who is very abrupt and direct like that is hand it right back. They may even appreciate that you are not wasting their time or effort.
Never be rude or snide. Always document your time and efforts on paper (planner) so they may see. It doesn't matter how long you stay.
Most of all if they step over the line, always politely show them where that line was. example...
Boss- "Are you stupid? That report was due on my desk this morning!"
You- "Sir, do not call me that again. That report is on your desk!"
or "Sir, that name realy upsets me, please do not use it, your report will be ready in half an hour."
When they learn they can't push your buttons, they won't. IF they are mental and take it further than that, you now have cause to sue them for hostile workplace, but that is your little fun for later, never mention it in the present.
2006-12-23 04:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by xillith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had rude bosses in the past and yes it sucks. The best way to deal with such a person is by being assertive. By no means are you stooping to their level.
Your boss may come off yelling at you regarding a certain job task. While your impulse would be to want to punch him in the face, the best you can do is take his words and twist it in a way where he would feel calm and assured that you would be able to handle the job task at hand. Give him the respect of being the big boss but at the same time don't cower down to his demeanor. Stand strong in your convictions but at the same time work along with what his objectives are. He still may be an ****** to the rest of his employees but he would think twice about doing that to you since in his mind, you've earned his respect.
2006-12-23 03:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God yes. I don't know anyone who hasn't had at least one of those bosses in their life.
offering specific advice in these situations is hard. Bosses and personalities vary -- the way you can 'handle' one may not work with the other.
Best I can say is that you should keep your nose clean. Do everything you're supposed to do and do it right- this way you are not providing your boss with a 'reason' to get upset with you. (not that people like that need a reason...)
But when YOU know you've done everything right, it makes you more confident if/when the boss yells at you. You'll know that you have done everything right and he's just being irrational.
When your immediate supervisor returns, you may want to consider mentioning the boss's behavior. Tell the supervisor that you were uncomfortable and unsure of how to hand the situation.
And it might not hurt to say "I haven't worked with Bob as long as you have. I've never worked with anyone who is so vocal about being upset with co-workers. (ie: yelling in halways) What kind of advice could you offer me for how to relate to Bob in the work place?"
This tells your immediate supervisor that you WANT to grow and develop. This tells them that you also look to them for guidance!! Its a win-win!
2006-12-23 03:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best way to handle that situation is too look at your screaming boss as a nut. Feel sorry for him and all of his problems. Afterall, since he's behaving that way, you could rest assure he has a lot more problems in life than you could probably imagine. Just give a sympathic look and leave th crazy alone to stew in his own juices.
2006-12-23 03:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by mac 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Calmly answer or say you will "investigate the situation" he is complaining about and walk away. If he yells at you to come back, go back and say "Your tone is upsetting me so I can't continue this conversation right now". If he fires you on the spot, good for you, you will get unemployment comp while you find your next job. Otherwise, find his answer or formulate a response to his rants. Go back to him when he is calm and report your findings. If he starts yelling again, walk away again.
2006-12-23 03:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by CAM1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is on a rant yelling at you, in front of other employees, tell him he is creating a "hostile work environment". Then write it down in a personal log along with who was there and saw it.
2006-12-23 03:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When dealing with a loud, rude, obnoxious person...answer in a hushed tone (almost a whisper) . They will stop and listen. It also makes them realize that you are staying calm and rational in the face of adversity ( a plus in a high pressure work environment).
This has worked with superiors, screaming babies, my kids & spouse, & people who are "personality challenged".
2006-12-23 05:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by J.S. S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sooooo stressful when you work under someone so ill-tempered.....it takes nerve, but you only have to do it once.....
When he verbally accosts you, or otherwise is abrupt and unprofessional in communicating w/ you.......
Look him square in the eye and say, "You wanna try that again?"....he'll be so taken aback, that he will edit himself when dealing w/ you.....if he makes the effort, be appreciative....but stand your ground.
and start job hunting...the best time to look for a job is when you have one....
2006-12-23 03:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Paula M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHOW HOW IMPORTANT YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO THE COMPANY IS HE WILL NOT YELL AT YOU ,HE WILL RESPECT YOU.SINCE YOU ARE A JUNIOR HE REDUCES HIS STRESS BY YELLING AT YOU , HE CANNOT DO THIS TO A TOP LEVEL STAFF. BE PATIENT AND TRY TO LEARN.
2006-12-23 04:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by ak 123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes its best to say *** u to rude people nomatter who they are.
2006-12-23 03:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋