it happens that 2 or 3 people talk to me at the same time one is my momin law and the others r equally imp. like my aunt in law or my sister in law. i usually try to give importance to my mom in law but it might offend others. iam tired of shifting my eyes and concentration from one to the other.how can i deal wid this without having to tell them to talk one at a time.the older ladies are 60 and 60 +.
2006-12-23 03:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by krazi sasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like they are looking for affection.
2006-12-23 03:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Peter M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they Italian? I am and I look at my obviously overwhelmed husband (Irish decent) on the holidays and know that he suffers with you. I think that it is great that you are concerned, but if you just keep half of an ear them they will be fine. When you get overwhelmed excuse yourself for a little bit. I know that you may feel like your being rude, but your not. I come from a very large Italian family at our adult table for the holiday there can be anywhere from 20 to 34 people. They all feel the need to talk over one anther. Sometimes it's a wonder if anyone can actually get their point across. Find the conversation that you want to get involved with stick with that one and then move on to the next. Oh, and relax they know that you are only one person. Good Luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-23 03:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for trying to keep up with a gaggle of 60 year olds!! Ha. My guess is, they don't even notice. I wouldn't be too concerned. You don't necessarily have to give your MIL preference. You give attention to whomever is speaking at the time. If they are all speaking at once, it is fine if you converse with one over the other, I think. Since you can hardly be expected to carry on several conversations at the same time. If worse comes to worse, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom. When you come back, they will probably settle things by then. If not, at least you gave your eyes a rest! They are all just excited to see you! :) A good sign that you are part of the family.
2006-12-23 03:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too good to know that u have a filled house with too much affectionate guardians in your house, U are giving importance to your own mother in law that is also very good, but u must also take care of your other in laws too, u must not run from this situation but try to honour them all, Let them speak together, U can talk to them as and when u r free and ne by one.
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2006-12-23 04:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by AVANISH JI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way to do it is to shift all your attention, you body, eyes, and words, to your mother-in-law, and finish what you're saying or hearing, even if others are speaking. Then do the same with them as you are ready for them. You can even tell them while they interrupt, "I'll be with you in a moment; I'm talking to mother in law." something like that said politely and with a gentle smile. they will learn through your behaviour that they need to wait until you're ready to hear them.
2006-12-24 09:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your problem.Since al of them want to talk to you,it means that they like you very much.They are after all old ladies and are just a wee bit daft,they are not realising the problem they are causing you.It happens sometimes,don't get too worried.
Good Luck.
2006-12-24 03:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Shanil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sweet sixties r not looking 4 answers, but 4 appreciation and love ...just nod ur head once in a while and shift ur eyes on all of them. remember 2 smile also
2006-12-25 18:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by sky r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. first time heard bout this situation. ve u ever seen a talk show?? where the host tries to keep everyone happy. see more of tht n learn.
ofcourse give more attention to ur mom in law n tell them quitely tht i m not able to answer at one time so please b patient.
2006-12-23 03:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by kapil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the people get older that behaves like child they want to be herd first they want get all the attraction ..............
please don't get into it so much try to listen one at atime u have talk to them about this because if u want they will want understand Ur problem n will thing that Ur been not good to them they will start negative thinking about u talking is the best solution
happy Christmas
god bless you
2006-12-24 21:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old people get hurt fast , see when we get old we act like children ... hmm i think u should start a topic all of u'll enjoy
2006-12-25 23:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋