How to keep girls interested?

Question

I am 17 and still in highschool, all of my friends are boys and I would like to have more friends that are girls. My school is very small and there arn't many girls to choose from for friends or girlfriends. I've been told that I am attractive and I can see that girls are interested in me, but I have trouble keeping them interested because I have trouble thinking of things to talk about with them. I also can't find a girl that shares my sense of humour, my other friends think I am hilarious, and it's not that I a jackass sense of humour that girls wouldn't be interested in. I'm also very shy so this adds to the problem (alcohol has helped with this but I don't want to have to resort to that all the time).

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, guy, but to me it's like you're asking how to be a better trained circus animal. You're not supposed to perform for their amusement; no one could keep that up 24/7. You need to look for a girl that's more comfortable around you when you're being yourself. A relationship can't last if you're constantly straining to be someone you're not.

Answer 2

First of all, you're only 17, so please please please please please don't start relying on alcohol to make you social. This will only lead to problems further down the line.

As for the meat of the question, be yourself. I know you say you're shy, and that does make it difficult, but maybe you could force yourself to be a little more outgoing. The more you try, the easier it becomes. You shouldn't change who you are to impress girls. Also, again, you're only 17. Don't rush it. I know how great it can seem to have a girlfriend, but so many people graduate high school without any experience in that area? Are you planning on going to college? That will open up a world of opportunity (socially, not just in the obvious sense) for you. And if not, I assume you'll start working after high school, which will also expand your social circle.

Good luck. Remember that high school is NOT the best time of your life, so don't feel like you're missing out. The best is yet to come.

Answer 3

Here's the answer that worked out sooooo well for one of my dear friends (he is a shy person also):

When he liked this girl, I adviced him to go talk to her about anything. Once the conversation starts, tell her that you are in fact a bit shy. She might not believe it at once, but you just say it again.

Most nice girls do appreciate it when you tell them. It stops them from wondering why the conversation is sometimes a bit uneasy.

You sound like a nice guy, just take it slow.

And you are right about the alcohol, it only works for a while and will get you in trouble later.....

Answer 4

do you want girlfriends or girls that are friends.
You will have girl-friends if you learn about the stuff we like and are able to talk with us on a comfortable level, you will also have many less friends that are boys.

If you want girlfriends then talk to available supply and see who talks back (try not to stare at her boobs too much though as that makes her talk to your forehead and is very annoying). From there see what you have in common and feel you way (NOT literally, until later that is) along. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just continue being who you are. Its hard to grasp that right now for you, but in the long run, it will all pay off. Don't result to drinking or something else just to get someones attention. You wind up looking like a moron or even worse when its all said and done. You will attract the "right" person sooner or later. DON'T be in such a rush. After all, you're only seventeen. You have so much to look forward to in life.

Answer 6

Argh--one of my friends is like this too. If you like a woman JUST TELL HER FROM THE START!! Forget becoming "friends" first. If one thing pisses a woman off more than much else is that her friends start getting interested in her!! So get off yer **** and just ASK the next woman out!! Please--save yourself from a life of frustration!!

Answer 7

Learn to ask questions and get other people to talk. People usually like talking about themselves and their interests. And don't rely on alcohol to do it, it won't always be around, and drunks only meet other drunks.

Answer 8

Don't try to please, if the girls do not like you for who you are, then they are not worth the friendship. Be yourself, do not change for anyone, one day the right girl will come along and accept you for who you are, those are the best friends you could have.