my fiance is black and i am italian... my parents can't accept the fact that he is of a different race. they threaten to dissown me if i don't leave him. i'm torn between the two of them. I love my fiance just as much as i love my family and i want my family to accept him like his family has accepted me. any suggestions on how to bring them closer to him?
2006-12-23 02:49:32 · 8 answers · asked by shortayitalian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey I am black and I would tell you to RUN. My brother dated a white girl and it was just for show. he treated her like a dog and I wondered why she stayed around. I tried to tell her about him but she wouldn't listen. After he beat the crap out of her and put her in the hospital over some stuff somebody said that was not even true she finally woke up and left him. I am happy for her that she did. I am just warning you about some black men and why they want a white girl. Good Luck, you will need it.
2006-12-23 02:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know you're parents are the people that brought you into this world but if they can't accept who you're engaged to based on his skin color then live your life. My mother didn't like the fact while I was growing up I like white boys and that my first boyfriend was puerto rican. She tried to raise me to date within my race and not to trust white people. At the end of the day its your life and you deserve to be happy. If you parents want to disown you over your future husband because he's not Italian then they are showing their true ignorance. I can see if they didn't like him because he was a cheater, an abuser, drug abuser or drug dealer, but if he's not any of those things then be with him. IT'S YOUR LIFE!!!
You can't live your life to make your parents or anyone else in this world happy. If you guys are in a happy and healthy relationship...then marry the man and go on about your business. Your parents will come around after awhile. There is nothing you can do to make them closer. Its up to your parents to get off their high horse and accept who you're going to marry and love you unconditionally. I'm glad that at least his family are accepting of you.
2006-12-23 11:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who has to make the decision.Your family has made it clear how they feel.You are the one who has to live with this decision.Only You can decide if You want to be with a man who may only be in Your life part of the time,or a family who will be with You all of the time.
2006-12-23 10:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by phockit47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family to at least give him a chance and take some time to get to know him before they form an opinion of him. Let them know how important it is to you and that it's not fair to make you choose.
I think if they will take the time to talk to him and get to know him better, their opinion will soften. I hope so anyway and I wish you all the best.
2006-12-23 10:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that your parents have the guts to disown you?20 years from now if you chose your fiancee you will ask yourself - what are they doing now? where are they? Are they thinking of me? I miss them. I wish my children will see them. But if you chose your parents, 20 years from now, you will say, what happened to him? It doesnt really matter...he's just a past.
2006-12-23 10:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okok I've been stuck between this problem and my answer is do what you think is right..... who do you love more.... do you think your parents love you if there judging the person you truly love think it over....... and your family remember is very IMPORTANT they gave you life and loved you till the end
2006-12-23 10:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Karina d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no immediate answer for your dilemma, Please don't rush to any decision yet, give yourself some time to think.
2006-12-23 10:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many still have racial hatred. i think you will lose if your parents won't budge.
2006-12-23 10:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋