About to turn 30 and having problems adjusting to this unwelcomed milestone...any ways to cope?

Question

I will be turning 30 soon and the idea is really hard to adjust to. I look young for my age (most people say 19-20), but it's still bugging me. Is this normal? Is there anyone else around my age who can relate to the way I feel?

Answer 1

I'm approaching "the next one" since I've been 29 since 1998.

Seriously, I blew off my 30th birthday. I celebrated my 31st in Cancun.

Answer 2

I'm 32. And once you get past the birthday you'll be fine. I think about how much I know now and actually this site reminds me of how far I've come. There isn't enough money in the world for me to go back to high school or even my early 20s. It HURT. lol. Now I have so much more insight on people, men and my life. I'm focused, I make more money then ever, I'm established in my career and I have all the things I couldn't afford then.
Being 30 is a welcomed milestone. Change your thinking. You've made it, your smarter for it and better off because of it.

Answer 3

It's quite normal to be freaking out a little on the eve of 30. I did, and it wasn't good. I guess, you just have to accept with grace the fact that you aren't as young as you used to be. I assure you, and I hope this helps, your 30's will be the best time of your life. With age comes wisdom, and in your 30's everything starts to make more sense. You start to have a really strong sense of self.

When I turned 30, I became brave. I left the abusive husband, and forged a life all my own. It was hard and it was scary, but looking back 10 years later it was absolutely necessary, and the best thing I could have done. My 30's brought me not only courage and wisdom, they brought me peace of mind and new love. They brought me a sense of security and serenity that I wouldn't trade for any of the "fun" I had in my teens and twentys. Good Luck, and Happy Birthday! You are normal.

Answer 4

Turning 30 felt kind of strange but life has only gotten better since I hit my 30's. You begin to realize what's really important in life and other peoples opinions of you don't seem to affect you as much as when you were younger. I think you start to feel more comfortable in your own skin as you get older. Remember that age is only the number of years you've been here...it's a number and how you act, how you feel about yourself and how you treat others is what's important. Enjoy 30...things get better from here imo.

Answer 5

You bet it is normal! Especially for a woman! I am in my mid fifties now and 40 and 50 were nothing compared to 30! I felt like my life had passed me by. I brleached my hair so blonde it was almost white. I started trying to act younger...hard to do with 3 kids in tow!
Hair changed back to my normal dark blonde at the time and I just went on! 30 was tough but 40 & 50 were awesome to me! It is all a mindset I guess. Just remember you are getting older but....you are also getting better!!!!!

Answer 6

I turned 30 last month..Everyone keeps saying "you are as young as you feel"..."look at your achievements, your increased sense of wisdom, security, beauty" and so on..Some even went to the extent of saying they wouldn't trade in their 30s for teens and 20s...Good for all of them, lucky ppl with such nice way of putting things to perspective.

I know I can't turn the clock back and so I'm stuck with it. There's nothing good abt turning 30 but the only good thing that I am happy abt is like you, I do look way too young for my age...and do hope it remains so for a long time.

Cause youth is beauty, sweetheart and let me tell you don't think too much on this, it just might affect your beauty and after 30 that's one of the most important thing in our life. So keep that smile up...!!!

Answer 7

I am not in your age group but can share some thoughts.
All humans wish they dont grow old, once they reach their late twenties. It is perhaps a mild expression of the desire to remain immortal!
Every day one grows older, and the pessimist in man would think that he is getting closer to death. This probably sub-consciously makes the growth process unwelcome.
There can be no solution, except to accept basic facts of life. What you can do is to reorient your thinking to involve yourself in more mature pursuits, foillow other absorbing interests and get on with the additional responsibilities that age normally thrusts on you, with courage. If you are married, you could get emotional support from your spouse. If not married, maybe you could consider it now.
Looks can be deceptive, but if you look younger, it would be good for sometime. Age tells on the body too, and if an older man looks too young, then it would raise some eyebrows! Be young in your heart, mature in your thinking (consistent with your age) and act wisely.

Answer 8

I should say you're lucky. Think: Everyone has to be 30 some day or another, but how many can look young like you? Be happy. Be a confident successful person of 30 years old. Everyone would look up to you if you carry yourself like a person of 30.

Answer 9

So no problem, you look young, you feel young, you think young, and 30 is just a number. If your feeling that bad at 30, what happens at 40, 50? It's just no big deal!

Answer 10

yeah, I felt that at 30, at 40, and now getting close to 50! I won't give the standard B.S. everyone gave me.. "you're as young as your feel blah blah blah" but I will tell you what has helped me:

Write down 10 things that you want from life. Those are your Whats, and then right down 10 reasons why you want those things. Those are your Why's. Then write down the things you need to do in order to get those 10 things.

Read up on people who got the things you want in life, do what they do.

Getting older is something we have no control over and it's just not worth the energy worrying about it. Worry about the things you can control, and go get them!

Answer 11

I'm going through that 2...
I'll be 30 in 13 months...I will start to lie about my age only if I want to but Be proud of how old you are...
OH, and don't you hate that when someone not even much older than you or younger than you say -oh you don't know about that b/c you are still young....and behind your mind, you say if you only knew....I get that a lot!