I was going through a very difficult time in my life and decided to contact my best friend from school. He replied (e-mail, we're in different cities):
"It's been several years since we had a chance to talk, and to be honest I'm not interested in what's going on in your life at this point. Contact me when things are going better for you and you're feeling more upbeat: our paths may cross again, or perhaps not. Wishing you the best..."
I found it very cold. Am I being over-sensitive? This guy was someone I considered almost like a relative. I even helped him to get his first job when we got out of high school. I don't understand.
2006-12-23 02:30:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
High school, and college for that matter, are times in our lives when we discover who you are. I have retained a friend from each stage in my life (I moved when I was in 11th grade. My friend from the pre-move era I've known since we were small children) but many of those friends fall by the wayside.
I was recently contacted by someone who would have been in my graduating class had we not moved. My husband and I went back to the area I grew up in and I left contact info in the office, as our 20 year reunion is coming up. I don't know what to say to her. Does she want to know about our failed adoption attempt and my brother-in-law uninviting us to Christmas Eve? Probably not. Do I want to go to the reunion? Yes. Those are the kids I grew up with!
Don't take it personally. Had you been in contact with him all of these years, it may be different.
2006-12-23 02:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about that.....
he was very cold to you. Most relationships that are created in high school might be 'real' at the time but after years have passed and there has been no communication... it's another story.
He/she was someone you knew in the past. It's just not something that you can decided to 'start' where you left off and think that everything is going to be just fine. And just because you helped him get a job right out of high school, doesn't mean anything. I assume that you wanted to do that at the time and you did..you really didn't expect anything in return did you?
Ask yourself this though.......What happened in your lives that caused the two of you to drift apart? Maybe you really weren't as close as you thought?? Next time you need someone to lean on...I suggest you go to someone you know 'now'. And I do hope that things are going better for you.
2006-12-23 02:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Edisto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's either moved on from where you are, or he's gotten real busy with his own problems maybe? If it's been a few years since you talked to him I'm sure that has something to do with it.
If he was something like a relative why haven't you kept in touch? After not talking to someone for 4 years, and then sending this email dumping on him about your difficulties probably kinda pissed him off a little. I mean, you can't communicate in 4 years then all of a sudden you want him to listen to your problems?
I'd call the guy up and apologize right now for your lack of sensitivity.
2006-12-23 02:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The several years of no contact put a lot of distance between the two of you. Maybe he listens to other people problems daily. Or maybe he is in a bad situation himself. I understand why you called him, but as with time people change too. And yes his letter did come off a bit cold especially if he was like a brother.
2006-12-23 02:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by shaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from where im from, high school friends are the best friends youll ever have in your life coz they are the ones who were there when you practically grew up and find yourself and youve been there for each other..its the time of your life where you cherish youth and all its goodies...
and if he responded to your that way...what kind of friend is he?
its not just cold but its insensitive!..i guess he did not value your friendship as much as you value his...then at this point.,,if he did that to you, tell him youre insulted by his message and tell him that if cant be a friend at your time of need, then its his choice..
and if you can forgive him, then you can tell him that he may not value your friendship anymore, then u can still be a friend to him...*
2006-12-23 04:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ hOnEy ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been out of high school for 4 years now, i live over 300 miles away from all my high school friends, and we still talk on a daily basis. this person was not a good friend if he is now just blowing you off. im very sorry for how it's been for you. your not being over sensitive, this person sounds very selfish in life, very ignorant
2006-12-23 02:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by blu3_p1x1_st1x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school friendships are great then but they dont tend to last beyond that people grow apart when they leave school make new friends move on as you could say. dont take it to heart it happens to all of us. you have probably lost contact with somone how was friends with you. its just the way it happens. your old friend could have been a bit nicer thou. just think its there loss.
2006-12-23 02:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just too stuck on themselves to care about other people and thier feelings. It doesnt sound like he took your efforts or friendship to heart. I wouldnt let it bother you, he sounds like he turned in to a jerk.
2006-12-23 02:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends always listen forget him.
2006-12-23 04:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by imart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake it off and forget about him. He was just using you as a stepping stone. True friends always welcome your greetings.
2006-12-23 02:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋