What is a swinger?

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What are swinger?

Answer 1

I got most of this information from Wikipedia and it is all correct. We have been swinging for about 6 years now and we really enjoy it. If you have any other questions, please feel free to IM or email us. We'd be happy to help.


Swinging activities can include (but are not limited to):

Exhibitionism: having sex with a partner while being watched.

Voyeurism: watching others have sex (perhaps with the above mentioned partner).

Soft Swinging or Soft Swap: kissing, stroking, or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. This may be in the form of a threesome or group sex, or partners may literally be swapped.

Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one's partner, which is the commonly understood definition of swinging (though not necessarily the most common type).

Group Sex: An all inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity.

Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages with either another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. Sex on these occasions is often referred to as play.

While the vast majority of swingers are heterosexual couples, a major part of Lifestyle activities are bisexual in nature. A large portion of female swingers, while they may or may not identify as bisexual, are interested in female-female sexual contact. Male-male contact is very rare, and usually frowned upon at a Swing Club/Party.

Female bisexuality and bicurious is extremely common in both the urban and traditional swinging scene and tends to be the norm amongst participants. No studies have been conducted as to what percentage of swinging women who define themselves as bisexual would be open to romantic as well as sexual relations with both genders.

Male bisexuality is less common in the swinging scene, but is becoming more common and more accepted. More openly bi men and bisexual couples (male-female couples where both partners are bisexual) are appearing on the scene. Whether this is due to increasing acceptance in the scene or greater numbers of men "turning bi" is open to discussion. Depending on the club or social situation, male bisexuality among swingers may either be frowned upon, or openly accepted.

The acceptance of singles at swinging events varies from geographic area to geographic area. Some swinging 'clubs' have a policy of allowing only couples and females, but most do allow single men on selected nights. Single females are often admitted at reduced admission price. Parties and private events may differ, however, and are often restricted to couples or couples and single females only.

The reasons for this vary. Most (but certainly not all) of the people who pay to participate in swinger events are male-female couples and most swinging couples are more interested in interacting with other couples or with single women than with single men. Thus, swinger events strive to achieve a balance between male and female participants or have a (usually slightly) larger number of females than males.

A common complaint among swingers is that single men change the tone and nature of event. While outright hostility towards single men is rarely prevalent, an abundance of single males is rarely looked upon favourably in any swinging context. When single males are permitted their numbers are usually limited by high entrance fees or stringent membership requirements.

Some swingers oppose the involvement of any singles of either sex in swinging because of the fear that they might split existing couples. While this might be a fear of some new couples, couples who have been part of the "Lifestyle" for some time report that the only way a couple can "split" is when one of the couple is looking outside the primary relationship. This is not the norm in a swinger relationship.

Answer 2

First off you tell no one. You get with a 'good' swingers club, one that has an orientation session or some people getting together for Q&A. Also, a majority of the people in swingers clubs are married. It can strengthen a good marriage and destroy a bad marriage.

Answer 3

" In other words you are cheating on your spouse with their ok and they are doing it to." - Berta44

Actually, no. Swingers are indeed people who choose to allow other partners as temporary guests into their sex life together, but they are NOT cheating. In fact, most swingers abhor cheaters and what they stand for...which is exactly the opposite of swinging. "Cheating" implies that someone is being defrauded or stolen from in some way. It implies a kind of theft or rape. If either half of the couple actually feels morally repulsed by swinging, feels that they are being degraded or abused, then of course it should stop. Likewise, if someone gets off on the idea that they are "putting one over" on his or her spouse, then of course he or she IS cheating! The question of whether it's cheating or not begins in the minds of those involved.

For my husband and I, it most certainly is not cheating. I know and approve of his attraction (and action on that attraction) to other women, and he knows and approves of mine. We have taken something that could be very detrimental to our relationship, harnessed it, and turned it into something that actually BENEFITS it. We have enjoyed greater communication, more honesty and intimacy, a "turbo-charged" sex life, and most importantly...we have a peace between us that I just can't imagine living without.

It doesn't work for everyone, but when it does work, it's wonderful.

Answer 4

A very old term. Married couples that have sex with other people with the full permission of their husband/wife. In other words you are cheating on your spouse with their ok and they are doing it to.

Answer 5

If you are interested in swingong while in Las Vegas he Red Rooster is a great place to meet others who are involved in the lifestyle.

Answer 6

mind how you answer this one , very sensitive. You'll end up with a violation notice if you tell the truth