I'm 18, he's 17....I want to have a relationship with him. I mean he's gay and so am I then why stop fun. How do I get him to reveal so both of us can be open and be for each other.???
2006-12-23 01:59:39 · 11 answers · asked by Thrustin 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You say you talk to each other quite often, then drop subtle hints that you're into him like you think he's looking great today with what he's wearing or try asking him to lunch or dinner. If you're really comfortable with each other, then it's time to tell him straightforward that you like him! Good luck!
2006-12-23 02:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful about this, especially since you are both in high school. The best thing you can do is start talking to him, be open and be honest,...but don't pressure him. He may not be ready for a relationship. Just take it slow, and whatever you do, DON'T out him,...it is not your place and you may lose him forever as your friend.
[P.S. There are many straight 17-year-olds who are not ready for a relatioship either, so don't' take it personally if he doesn't want to "go there" right now.]
I don't know how large the town is that you live in. If you are both in the city, it will be easier for you to be discrete. If you are in a small town, be very careful. I would not want either of you to get hurt emotionally or physically. I live in a small community, and we recently had two teenage boys beaten up very badly by some older guys who "presumed" they were gay. It was horrible, and one boy and his family have since moved.
I am not telling you this to scare you...just be careful. You are both young, and there are many cruel, uneducated, homophobic people out there.
Best wishes and good luck to you both.
2006-12-23 02:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is openly gay, then that is half the battle right there. If not, then it may be a little awkward if he is not ready to reveal that to others. But either way, if you are attracted to him, then I say go for it--maybe casually ask him to go out somewhere (instead of just seeing him at school) and then after a while ask him if he'd be interested in a date. It's better to know than to let him pass you by!! Good luck!!:)
2006-12-23 02:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i knew something was different about me at the age of 9 i like guys i lot more than girls...... my ex babysitter her brother was 18 came out and said he was gay about oh i guess 2-3 months later i started talking to him telling him i think im gay i was 16.....well we lets say had some fun.....now im 45 married to wonderful man he is 67 we have adopted 3 girls [ me and tony been together for 23 yrs] our oldest girl is getting marred to wonderful man in the spring time
2006-12-23 06:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first. Get to know him. He may/may not feel the same way for you. If this is high school though I would be more careful about broaching the subject. If you like this guy, do not put him, or yourself for that matter, into a position that may cause either of you pain or embarassment. He may not be ready to come-out and it is not your place to do it for him. If he is though, tap that quick!!!! :)
2006-12-23 02:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, You say you talk to him quite often, then be open with him and tell him your gay and see how he responds to you then.
2006-12-23 03:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become better friends with him where you start talking together about things you would only tell a good friend. Tell him about yourself and see how he reacts
2006-12-23 04:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one
I wish you the best!
2006-12-23 03:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tennessee James 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about like this, tell him you like him and tell him i hope you like me too? do you like me? and when he says the magic words...that's the start of a happy relationship!!!=)
if he doesnt tell him, oh i was just joking! haha=)
2006-12-23 03:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by young_biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him!
2006-12-23 02:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋