I care to much about what people think. What do I do?

Answer 1

My grandad always said: Those who mind, don't matter; those who matter, dont mind.
Personally, I don't care what people that I neither know nor care about think of me. Water off a duck's back.

Answer 2

It is good to care about what people think, but there is a limit to it. You want to give a good impresion (the right impresion, we might say) and help people, but there is a point that if you go past it, then you start to neglect yourself.
How much to please people will definitely depend on the situation, there will be instances in which you won't even be able to sleep, and that would be normal, because you know it is well worth the effort due to the situation, but there are times in which you shouldn't even care. say for instance, your friend is very sick, ans has no one to take care of her at all. What would you do? Now, on the other hand, your friend (your other friend) wants to go to a party, and wants to leave home early, she asks you to take care of her dog even nowing that you also have something far more important to do that evening than babysitting a dog. In this case you shouldn't even consider helping her. You see, the situation itself dictates the importance of caring about people, and this applies to all the issues in life (including what you say or do in front of others).
Now, if , say, you like to dress in certain way 'cause you like it that way, then don't think about people, 'cause the bad thing about it, is that people has different ways of seeing things,, and think about this, you will always please some people and not others. Some people would like for you to be funny and others serious, and yet others formal and others casual and relaxed.
Just be you, and concentrate more in your well being and happiness than on the others'.
God Bless you.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. People often tell me that I should just not care, but that's easier said than done, isn't it?
The best thing I can tell you (I have to keep trying to remind myself of this) is that I am a child of God, and He loves me...that's the most important thing. Usually it's really hard to not care about what people think, especially when it's something negative because you always have the self-conscious part telling you that you need to change to please everyone. I've been dealing with that a lot, and I hate it. My husband has been trying to help me through it and is always telling me I'm beautiful and everything. He's really sweet.
Just keep in mind that everyone is unique and sometimes people see different as wrong. But if everyone changed what others didn't like about them, we would all be the same...and that's not what God intended.
The hardest thing to deal with is when even your parent(s) tell you that you have things wrong with you and that you need to change. I pray that you don't have to deal with that. Just remember that you were created in God's image. We all are, which means that we are all beautiful. Also, we all have individual personalities which God foresaw when He created us.
Just be grateful for the blessings God has given you and pray for Him to give you the confidence to know that you are a beautiful, wonderful child of God.
That's what I've been trying to do, and it's starting to work more and more everyday. I still have my moments when I start thinking about everything that people have said to me lately...but for the most part God and my husband have been helping me through this tremendously.
Just please don't go so far as to let others' opinions control you or cause you to actually change who you are. I know what it's like to take that sort of thing too far.
I am praying for you, and I honestly hope that this helps you. God bless.

Answer 4

Usually this happens because you put too much of your self worth into what other think of you. What you need to do is learn to love and appreciate yourself. Once you achieve that, you will care A LOT LESS of what others think of you.

Answer 5

You have to come to the realization that you are more worried about it than anyone else is. Most people you come in contact with are mere acquaintances and will not have any affect on your life in the long run. What should be the most important thing to you is your opinion of yourself....not that of others. If you feel good about yourself and who you are, that's what will get you through life, not other peoples opinions of you.

Answer 6

Don't worry about what others think. Their thoughts do not define who you are. You are seeking approval from others, and the fact is that you won't always get the approval that you think you deserve. So be good to yourself and live right for yourself, and that should be the only approval you need.

Answer 7

don't care. since you said you care too much.

Answer 8

buy self confidence books or just try and becom more self confident and remeber that it doesn't matter what other ppl think bc they aren't u...just let it roll off ur shoulders and smile...thats what i do and it really does work-just dont think about it!! good luck and merry hollidays!

Answer 9

Laugh at yourself

Answer 10

I USE TO BE THE SAME WAY. IT TOOK YEARS FOR ME TO STOP FEELING THAT WAY. NO ADVICE REALLY, JUST TRY TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT. THINK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS FOR A CHANGE I GUESS.