Everyone ignores me!!!?

Question

I am in 6th grade, very quiet, love animals, reading, people, music and sports...
Everyone ignores me! When I go somewhere people just I guess forget I am there! I have been at the same church since grade 2 and everyone has ignored me! In my choir I have 1 friend but she came to me first. In swim team everyone insists on going ahead of me in the lane! How do I help this? It is so hard for me to talk to anyone and i feel so stupid. I want to be normal but I don't know what to say so I can be a normal girl. I am homeschooled and I have a pet rat, is that making things worse? Please help!!!!
I live in the suburbs. Across the street there is a very annoying 8th grade girl. i have tr ied to make friends wiht her but it didn't turn out well at all.
Also I lost my 2 best friends recently, that doesn't help.

Answer 1

with time you will blossem and they will notice you. you just haven't discovered enough of yourself to display to others yet. I too was like this once. now they all want to be me.

Answer 2

Take the initiative. You could try inviting people from the groups that you're already part of, such as the swimming team, to go places and do things. How about organising a party or barbecue at your house or something or going roller-skating or ten-pin bowling or something.

To get to know people, start gradually by making small talk about ordinary everyday things. A good book to read is "The Pocket Guide to Making Successful Small Talk : How to Talk to Anyone Anytime Anywhere About Anything" by Bernardo J. Carducci.

If a person seems friendly, you can move on to let them know about your interests and other friends and people that you know. You then might arrange to do something together another time, hang out at your house, go window-shopping at the mall or chat by Instant Messenger or SMS.

If you want to get to know boys, either now or in a year or two, see the link to a good flirting guide.

Answer 3

Home schooling probably does not help. Being away from your peers and not being able to partake in school activities in class or after class does not help either. But remember you are only in 6th. grade. You have so many life changing events to encounter and move through. Stay strong both of mind and body, stick to things you know and like. Eventually the shell you feel you are in will break and the new person that emerges will be something more of who you feel you are and should be. Playing sports does help too, but you may have to stretch farther than just swimming. Losing to close friends does not help but I will tell you this much, regardless of how old you are losing any one close to you will never be easy!

Answer 4

There aren't any easy answers... The truth is you're really doing all the right things already. You need to become involved with things outside of the house (i.e. swimming, church, choir...). Once you're there you need to become a little more asertive. Stand up for yourself. Don't let everyone get ahead of you while you're swimming. Don't wait for everyone to come up to you to become friends. Talk to the kids around you. Take the initiative to make friends youreself.

Don't feel stupid for talking to another kid. The reason they're not talking to you is because they don't know you and they feel the same way.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Hi! I'm a grown woman but I can relate to what you're going through because as I child, I was the same way. I am still! I try to be a nice person, reach out to people but go unnoticed. I think people may feel intimidated by you. I'll bet you're very pretty which kind of scares other girls since they envy you. My husband said because I am thin and attractive and friendly. Some people are just miserable. It's too bad. Keep your chin up and remember what I said- it is because others are envious of you- so they stay away. Feel flattered!!

Answer 6

You know you need to go to the Children's Acting classes in your home town. Sounds like to me you have an isolated life tho very nice. The very best thing my parent's did for me was send me to children's acting class on Saturdays and Wednesday nights. In no time at all I learned how to control a situation on my terms, how to be shy or outgoing. It's all a matter of acting, then someone comes along and tells you to "be yourself", well that is not always possible. But please let me tell you this OK? YOU CANNOT BASE YOUR ENTIRE LIFE ON EVERYONE ELSE'S OPINION! Don't always worry if someone is going to like you or whether they approve of you, think if your going to like yourself and what you do. When I, an adult, stand back and look at my life I say, "well I'm a pretty good person, and I do like me". Try it. Merry Christmas dear!

Answer 7

You have NO self esteem, girl. Your considering yourself 'not normal' because you think people ignore your? They are not ignoring you, YOU have to speak up and be a friendly, 'colorful' person. MAKE them notice you by starting conversations, about all of your interests. That's exactley how you started your post out, with all the things you love. Well, start there with people, they won't help but to like you! Can't be too shy, that's not good!

Answer 8

sounds like a female me... hi i'm blake.

well rember your smarter then them. you think way more than them on every thought. you don't talk becouse your not total sure of what they are talking about.

i could contue forever, but here is the solution.

ok plan A
if you see a group of people small or big that you think youd like to talk, and enteract with. (i like small group) . just walk up to them after listening to them and add a comment/ ask if they need help/ just talk it should be nateral. if it feels weird your not ment to be there.

if it doesn't feel weird then in 5 to 15 mins ask there name to varify who they are. even knowning to already know there names.

when the next class begins go straght to them and talk with them.

keep repeating the line above.

but crap your home schooled plan B.

plan B
get enrolled in a schools after school programs and do plan A.

good luck


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Answer 9

ok, well, i am in 6th grade 2. and on a swim team! soo maby i can help. first, try sticking up for yourself. sum people mite respect you! also, try looking for a person with the same intrests. thats wut i did, and i have a whole group of friends!

Answer 10

Touche.